Post # 1
Okay. So Bees this is a tough one for you. If you don’t want to read the whole thing, just skip the background.
My SO and I have been working together for two year now, we met at work. We work in a franchise of a large casual dining resteraunt. We have both gone out for every promotion available. The first round (in which they hired three people) neither of us got promoted. The second round (in which they hired two people) my SO got promoted, and I did not.
Now, they are telling me I have to change stores in order to keep my job. This would not be a problem except the managers at the other location do not like me at all. It would cause major problems and make me very upset. Beyond that, I REALLY wanted the promotion. They actually told me, “It’s unfortunate because you are basically running the bakery without the gold nametag.” Sigh. Thanks.
First, I don’t want to move stores, but I love where I work, I’m just miserable because everyone keeps asking what is going on and when I am leaving and I really do not know. Second, I am started to resent my boyfriend for getting the promotion when I did not. Personally, I am really, really happy for him, but profesional I’m really upset. I was just as qualified and it took a LONG time for a promotion to even open up and I don’t want to wait around for another one.
Now, this is putting a lot of strain on our relationship. I am miserable so I’m not meaning to but I’m taking it out on him. The best idea I can come up with to remedy this is to get away, but fund are tight so I don’t know if I can afford it.
So, Bees, am I crazy? Is a solo vacay the best solution? If so, where do I go that’s affordable?
Post # 6
You dont really need to go away on a real vacay. Spend a day on yourself. Get your nails done, get a massage just take the time for yourself, and clear your head. Its understandable why you are upset!! And im sorry. So… do you have to move bc he got the promotion and you cant work together with him being your boss…?? Anyways he didnt do to you on purpose.. All and all no matter who got it. It will still better both your lives. It will get better. I say if you have to move stores move… But dont go into it thinkng its going to be awful. Keep your chin up.
Post # 7
is there an actual policy stating why you are unable to work together? if its because no married couples – well you are not married yet, if its because of complaints from coworkers due to the relationship then thats a different issue
im sorry – it cant imagine how it would feel to have your employment at risk over this, i suggest you request a meeting with managment to discuss the actual situation, when are the next round of promotions due and maybe you can discuss with with them to see if there is more you can do to achieve it. goodluck
Post # 8
DO NOT go on a solo vacation, I feel that it would distance you even more from your boyfriend. It will also make funds tight and therefore stress you more.
It sucks when one of you gets something and the other doesn’t. I think perhaps you should start looking for another job, as much as you love this one, it might be time to find your own place to work so that the two of you aren’t competing. Also, they said that you have to leave? So it doesn’t really sound like you have a choice. It sucks but we have to make sacrifices within a relationship. This time, it’s you.
Hopefully you’ll find somewhere you love just as much. It does sound like they’ll give you an amazing reference though. 🙂