Post # 1
I am 21 and engaged. Will be 22 when getting married. I am the first of all my friends to get married so I really havent even thought about what I want.
The wedding will not be until Summer 2011 but as of now the only thing my fiance and I have talked about is a big wedding in the church we grew up in (catholic–no mass though) and then a big reception at the local country club (the works–dancing, buffet, open bar).
I am not dying to plan. All of my friends and my mother keep asking me what I want and when do I want to do showers, shopping…etc…. It really stresses me out and i start to panic. In the back of my mind I want to go to the beach with only my fiance, get married, then fly to an island for a honeymoon. BUT….i DO want my family to be there. I DO want to get married in my hometown. I DO want our closest friends to come (hard with a destination wedding). I want all of these things. I think i am becoming more interested in a small ceremony (just family and close friends) and a hors d’oeuvres/cocktail party that includes EVERYONE–not just ceremony guests. And i am not opposed to omitting dancing. 🙂
I know it sounds like I know what I want…but i need opinions. I like dont like making these big decisions. Once the big decision is made i can handle the details. PLEASE tell me what you think! times, places, music, anything is appreciated!
Post # 3
trust me summer 2011 is not that far away… my first 6 months of my engagement flew by now im in a panic 🙂
but it sounds like you know what you want. if you want something small and intimate, then do something small and intimate – its perfectly acceptable to do a family only small ceremony and have a large reception for everyone to join in with you.
if it helps i have a huuuge family and i have always dreamed of a small wedding – so i am doing a mix – i picked a venue with a capacity of 120 so i know it wont be more than that, and having my reception at a nearby ballroom so if push comes to shove and i need to expand the reception i can (but im not gonna!!!!)
start with the feel of your wedding and how you want it to feel to you and your FH and guests, check out the wedding magazines out there – i recommend real simple weddings – its got everything in there to help you out including checklists! and it will come to you. just start with the feeling, then either pick your venues next or your dress, one will dictate the other!
good luck and dont panic 🙂
Post # 4
oh and before you start picking venues or falling in love with dresses – GET YOUR BUDGET. 🙂 find out who is paying for what and how much they are willing to pay. makes a HUGE difference in what you end up doing…
Post # 5
I’m doing the same, having a “smaller” ceremony with about 160-180 people, then inviting most of our friends to just the reception to party the night away with us. Most understand that we’re keeping it just closer friends and family, and that’s what’s important. It’s your day, and you should be able to celebrate it exactly the way you want to 🙂