(Closed) Not a good day.

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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518 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I know you are only looking for positive feedback but, honestly, I think your first comment was kind of passive aggressive. She shouldn’t have come back at you so strongly on a public forum, but I think you are somewhat responsible given the comment you made. Sorry that’s not what you wanted to hear.

Post # 4
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4770 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Happy Birthday!

You have every right to be upset.  I would not be firends with her.  If you hubby wants to be friends he can be.  Have your party. 

Anyway, wouldn’t a baptism be during the day and a b-day party at night?  You could have just done both without saying anything to begin with. 

Post # 7
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153 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

@Leche4evr:  You could just leave early to go celebrate your birthday with other friends

Post # 8
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1269 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I don’t get it.  And I don’t mean that against what you wrote but I don’t understand why her first comment was warranted based on your comment.  I had to read it 4 times to make sure I was reading it right.  I think she was irritated at E.  When I read E’s comment I read it as sarcastic.

It’s also hard to guage tone in writing though.  If you are asking advice then I say go to the baptism.  They aren’t very long right?  But that’s only if you see them socially.  If you never see them socially then I would stay away. 

P.S. Happy birthday!

Post # 9
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1269 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

Also, did E make the comment on his/her site or on L’s site?

Post # 11
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7173 posts
Busy Beekeeper

It sounds like your husband wants you to play nice, so I would.  I know you don’t feel like going – but I’d just put on a happy face and be there for HIM.  

Not to add another issue to the pot – but, why would she think you wouldn’t show up (originally)?  Does your husband usually go to social things involving her without you?

Post # 12
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3942 posts
Honey bee

Ya I don’t really understand. It’s a little hard to follow. Couldn’t you have just gone to the baptism in the afternoon, and then the bday party at night? Even if their parties run late, you don’t have to stay the whole time.

Post # 13
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860 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I don’t think you should go!  Sounds like she didn’t want you to come in the first place.  It’s hard to understand your post but it does sound like she took a nudge from you and came back swinging!  I agree, I wouldn’t want people like that in my life either.  What would the baptism be like, everyone talking bad about you??  No thanks!

Post # 15
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1269 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I guess I’m just still confused where the sh*t talking was taking place.  On the surface it sounds like both E and your comments were sarcastic sad.  Is she reading into it differently?

I don’t think you are overreacting By The Way.  I don’t care where it is when drama starts, including FB, some people thrive and some people run.  I find that I’m happier when I run and I’m uneasy if pulled in.  It’s better to stay out and it will pass. 

Have you decided to go to the baptism?  Is your husband going?

Post # 16
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10366 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I honestly think you started the drama. They fed the fire, yes, but the passive arrgessiveness started with you.

When dealing with FB drama remember: just walk away. It isn’t worth it.

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