(Closed) I need advice (Long post)

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
228 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Can you see if your venue allows you to set up a payment plan? It won’t hurt to ask. We are on a tight budget as well, and although people are offering to help/pay for things, we aren’t counting on it exactly for this reason.

Also, would you be losing anything (deposits) that you already have set up in South Carolina? Are you paying for the 10-12 people to go to Maine? Are they 10-12 people on your side, or your fiance’s side as well? If his parents are having trouble contributing to your wedding, will they be able to pay to travel?

Post # 4
353 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I guess my first question is, where would the extra money come from to pay the difference that his family was going to contribute?  If it means putting it all on a credit card and then being in debt, then there’s your answer.  You still need to have a life beyond your wedding day and if money isn’t rolling in regularly, then spending what you know you don’t have is the worst thing you could do. I vote for Maine, intimate, small and sweet.  If your grandparents are like everyone else’s that have lived through tough times, they should totally understand.  Talk to them about it and be honest about why you have to change the plans, I don’t think anyone would fault you for your decision.

Post # 7
2239 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Is there any way for you to scale back on your other wedding plans? Like go super simple on florals and stuff?

Post # 9
66 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I vote for the Maine idea.  Just cut your ties with the vendors and venue, especially if even with that loss it will be cheaper for you.  The type of wedding you describe that would happen in Maine sounds wonderful, special and way less stressful.  Thats what I would do in your place.  Good luck!!

Post # 10
1763 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Is there any way you can scrap the honeymoon and do something later on? did you send STD already? that would be my big concern in changing things at this point is if guests are ecpecting to be invited to the wedding already.

Post # 12
2201 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Are there other areas to cut? Do a cake and punch or light hors d’oeuvre reception instead of a full dinner reception (not sure what you already have planned). Or make it a dry wedding and eliminate any liquor costs (or just have a champagne toast)?

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