I need advice on my relationship? Where am I going wrong?

posted 2 months ago in Emotional
Post # 31
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  • Wedding: November 2010

beautylovexo :  

Bee, you are two months in.  You do not really love him.  You don’t even know him.  You don’t have a relationship. 

You know a guy.  You have had a couple of dates.  In your head, you have blown this up into the Romance of the Century.

He doesn’t want the role of Prince Charming and he is, understandably, pulling back.  If you keep chasing him, keep demanding that he give you more time, he’ll pull further away.  Probably all the way out of your life.

Your plan to busy yourself with other people is solid.  Do that.  Do anything other than pester this guy before you get yourself onto the business end of a restraining order.

Post # 32
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thunderbee :  

Yup.  I took a look at OP’s previous thread.  You’re right.  Same game, different day.

OP knew the guy a month and was OTT about him, too. Definitely an unhealthy pattern.

 

beautylovexo :  

It’s time to dig deep and take a good, hard look at your history with guys, Bee.  You are not getting yourself even close to where you want to be.  You’re probably starting out by choosing the wrong guys in the first place.

Then you jump on them and cling for dear life.  Not a good look. Any halfway decent, healthy man will run screaming in the other direction. Less honorable types will use your neediness against you and exploit the crap out of you.

Therapy, Bee.  Therapy.  Now.

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