- 12 years ago
- Wedding: October 2008
We started to hard core wedding plan back last May or so. In February, I ordered my dress, and beginning of March, I took one bridesmaid with me to help pick out their dresses. Cost is an issue, and that was the first thing I looked at when deciding. All in all, they will cost $164.00 with tax, with and additional charge for sizes past 22W, and taller girls past 5’8”.
So with that in mind, I have been updating my sister who is also my maid of honor, on the cost of this dress. She has been very disrespectful and rude towards me. #1, she is pregnant, and #2, she say’s money is tight. I told her I understand about her money situation and I know she has a baby on the way. (I unfortunately cannot help her pay for her dress as I am a student still, and we are putting on the wedding with no financial help from family.) She stated in the beginning a month back or so, that she won’t have the money, and cannot afford it, I replied, "so you can’t be my maid of honor?" She then said she didn’t say that, and she could only promise me she would try to get the money. As a bride to be, I have been worried, because I can’t bank on "try." She recently said she could afford it, and then proceeded to yell, cry and hang the phone up on me when I gave her the final details on the cost of the dress. Later, she told me our dad was going to pay for our dress which frsutrated me a little, as he has not offered to help me. I told her I was happy, and then asked for an apology for the way she treated me the last time we talked. She then told me I woudln’t get one becasue I was being selfish, and I am not understanding she has a baby on the way, and that money is tight. For which I replied that I have understood from the begining, and that is no excuse to treat me the way she has been. She then proceeded to tell me (among other things,) that I have alienated everyone back at home, I’m worthless, selfish, and she never wanted to be my maid of honor anyways, so I should just find a new one. Just to add, I have spent over $200 on her baby shower and presents for her and the child and the nursery. All of which, she has forgotten. Also,I have a feeling when it comes time for a bridal shower, or bachelorette party, I don’t think I can count on her.
This is greatly distressing for many reasons. I have friends who tell me I should just let her go, and I have others tell me I should find a new maid of honor. WIth either plan, she doesn’t show remorse for the way she has been treating me, and if I do find a new one, it will just be more ammo later. The probelm is, I don’t know if she is planning on visiting the rest of the b. maids and me on the 9th of May to order the dresses/get measured. I have no idea what to do now.