Post # 1
<span style=”font-size: 7.5pt; font-family: ‘Verdana’,’sans-serif'”>I am getting married at small venue 200 max including wedding party 3/28/09. My dilemma is how I can discretely make it clear that I don’t want kids there. I can’t say "no children please" because one my soon to be Mother in law would freak out and two it is my second wedding and most of my bridal party are my daughter, and step daughter and a lot of his side have young children so close family will probably have their kids but I really don’t want friends ect to bring them. Any ideas on how I can word the RSVP card or anything like that???? I am doing invites in a few weeks I can use all the help I can get.<span style=”font-size: 7.5pt; font-family: ‘Verdana’,’sans-serif'”>Thanks,<span style=”font-size: 7.5pt; font-family: ‘Verdana’,’sans-serif'”>M
Post # 3
I think i’ve seen "adult reception" or "adult only" on some invites… i think the wording is supposed to give it away, and the addressing of the envelope… but i have a feeling when it comes time for ours… we’ll still have to deal with people directly regardless of how we word it… 🙁
Post # 4
Honestly, the best way around this, especially if you are including children of family members but not of friends, is to call each of them personally and let them know your decsision. Explain that while there will be children at the wedding, it will only be the children of immediate family members. Then, and this is key, offer them a baby sitting service or the number and website of a reliable service in the area.
Theoretically, if you don’t include the children on the invitation, than people shoiuld know they aren’t invited, but that doesn’t always work, we actually had some people write their kids in!
Post # 5
I totally agree with the idea of "no children allowed" wedding because I feel that children have completely ruined other people’s weddings. The thought of a child crying in the middle of someone’s speech is simply too much to bare.
Post # 6
I didn’t want any kids at except the flower girl and ring bearer at my ceremony either. So what we did was hire a few babysitters to watch the kids at our reception site (very near the church). We had an enclosure in our invites that said that our web site had info regarding child care, and of course our web site gave all the details. Might be too much trouble for you but it worked well for us. (Although we did have a semi-destination wedding, so it would have been hard for folks to find childcare themselves.) Good luck!
Post # 7
We are having our reception at a hotel and are offering babysitting, and to my surpise many of our out of town as well as in town guests are taking us up on the offer. We are hiring part of the youth group from our church.
Post # 8
We wanted to make sure that people understood that we weren’t inviting children to either the reception or the ceremony. It wasn’t fun, but I called and talked to all the parents in question to let them know. Technically, I believe that if you address the inner envelopes to only the parents they should know that the children aren’t invited. However, I have a couple of people who would possibly not know/ignore this, so I wanted to make sure they knew exactly what we intended.
Post # 9
I agree with Corn. If you try to be at all subtle, people will ignore it and bring their children. If it is really important to you, then you need to tell people specifically that they can’t bring their specific children. Be prepared for fallout–it’s unavoidable.