Post # 1
I have some time to decide, but I’m trying to figure out what would be best for taking pictures… My ceremony and reception are being held at the same venue and both are outdoors. The venue is a park like setting at a conservancy -there is a house and barn with a lot of land, trees, paths, and a couple ponds.
We were planning for the ceremony to start at 3pm (this will be about 20-30minutes) and the reception at 5pm -This would give us some time for pictures in between the ceremony and reception. Guests will be able to wonder around (which means they could potentially see us taking pictures) and enter the house for cocktail hour.
My Fiance knows how the typical wedding photography goes because he does wedding videography. BUT he does not want to take pictures before the ceremony – he wants to see me for the first time as I walk down the aisle. But I feel like this isn’t going to work because we’d have so many pictures to take and our guests will already be at the venue (and it may be hard to “leave” the guests to take photos) …Does this make sense or will his way work?
As for taking pictures BEFORE THE CEREMONY, I feel like we would have to take these early since guests may arrive early and I don’t want anyone else to see me before the ceremony. Could we do a lot of couple photos before the ceremony (and while my hair and makeup are still pretty- lol) and then take some with the parents and bridal party after the ceremony?
Thanks for reading! – I really think it helped for me to just type it out and get it right in my head. haha. 🙂
Post # 3
I would think 2 hours is more then enough time to take pictures. I would take it after the ceremony that way your fiance still gets to see you walking down the aisle for the first time ,like he wanted.
Post # 4
You will be fine. YOu don’t want to see him before… let him see you for the first time when you are walking down the isle… it’s romantic, emotional…
We are also having a ceremony and reception at the same venue. Just be firm with everyone and say you have to take photos. Everyone will understand.
Post # 5
We’re having ours at the same place too. We decided I’ll do all my pics with my girls and he’ll do all of his with his guys before the ceremony. We’re going to do all the pictures we can before so that we don’t have to take up a lot of reception time taking them. I don’t want to do a first look or anything either. But I think guests will know you have to take pictures, so they should understand!
Post # 6
If you don’t want to see each other before the ceremony getting all the photos between ceremony and reception should be fine. But really you should talk to your photographer and ask if 1 1/2 hours is enough time for them. It’s pretty tight, but it should be workable if you don’t want a ton of family and bridal party shots. Otherwise I would suggest doing your bride/groom shots before the ceremony and the other formals after the ceremony.
Just ask your photographer to take control and tell everyone it’s time for family photos. You can then just ask the rest of guests to go in for the cocktail reception.
Post # 7
You can always take bridal party pictures with your girls before with out seeing him. Just like he can as well with his Groomsmen. He can get away with some family/guest stuff too before. (you said you don’t want Anyone to see you so guests/family photos are out for you) Then after you can do more photos together with family/bridal party.
Make a list of who you want photos with and have people(BM/GM)make sure who you want photos with is ready. This makes the formals much more efficient. Do your best to have things run on time so photos taking is not cut short because the reception is about to start.
If you can talk him into a first look then you can get all the bridal party shots and of you two so all you have to do is family/guest formals after the ceremony. First looks are so intimate with raw emotion, they are just lovely.. not 120 people staring at you.. just a private moment with the two of you to gaze, hug, cry, and really take each other in. You can also enjoy cocktail hour and mingle with guests if you do a first look.
Its really up to you two how you want to do it. First looks makes it easier and so will a list with and people to help ensure they are ready.
If its running on time and you have to get through lots of formals Id estimate you’ll have 20-30 minutes of alone photos of just you two.
Post # 8
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
“Could we do a lot of couple photos before the ceremony (and while my hair and makeup are still pretty- lol) and then take some with the parents and bridal party after the ceremony?”
Our circumstances with the venue are very similar to yours, and this is exactly what we’re doing. (Well, what I’m planning – Fiance isn’t particular about not seeing me before the ceremony, so he’ll go along with whatever.)
If you’re trying convince him to do a “first look”, I found this article very helpful!
Post # 9
Seeing that your ceremony is at 3 which means you would be doing photos before around 1:30/2ish the light isn’t going to be that great. I would do them in between but just try to make it clear to your guests that you don’t want backseat photo taking. Having others stand behind the photographer taking photos will result in the photos taking twice as long and people will be looking all over the place. Maybe try to pick a location that away from the guests as much as possible for the bigger groups and then instruct your photographer to let guest know you want the couples photos to be more intimate and only the three of you.
Post # 10
Thanks for the advice everyone! I’m going to talk it through with the mister and see what he has to say. I’m iffy about seeing him before the ceremony also although I always see so many pictures of couples doing a first-look and I hear a lot of good things about doing that. Plus I’m worried I’ll be squeezing too much in if we do it all between the ceremony and reception. There’s so many picturesque spots and trails, so I want to have time to get everything in.
But I like the idea of strictly doing separate bridesmaids and groomsmen pics before the ceremony.
Great article. Thank you! I’m going to share it with him!
Post # 11
I really like what you had to say about the first look being just the two of you. It sounds so nice the way you put it. Now I feel like I am favoring that! Also I like the idea of having time to mingle with guests. That would leave more time for fun at the reception too.
Post # 12
I plan to get separate pictures done before the ceremony. Like me and my bridesmaids, family, etc. And his side too. Obviously that works better with two photographers though but you could at least do some of those before the ceremony to save time later. We won’t be seeing each other until the ceremony either.
Post # 13
We’re having both at one venue. We’ve got about an hour between the end of the ceremony and dinner, so we’re doing all pictures then. We aren’t worried about multiple picture locations (we have a few right around the venue) and we know we don’t want anything too contrived or over the top for pictures.
Post # 14
I would suggest taking some photos before (ie: you with the bridesmaids, him and the groomsmen, you with your family, etc) but leaving the photos with him for after. If everyone on the bee weren’t swooning over how great first look sessions are, would you still want it?
I know for me.. there is NOTHING more romantic than locking eyes as you come down the aisle and letting his excitement, nerves, shock, and everything else show at once. I think it is so so beautiful.
If you’re having cocktail hour, could you have someone lead the guests to the drinks and snacks? If you make it clear you’re going to take photos, I’m sure the guests won’t bother you. (maybe a few stragglers. lol)
Post # 15
Your venue sounds similar to how ours was. We did the first look, bridal party and immediate family member pictures before the ceremony. Then after the ceremony we went to take more pictures while the guests went inside for cocktail hour. No one minded that we went off for more photos, I think that’s pretty expected.
I personally loved our first look, that was the one part of the day we were actually alone together lol. I know everyone wants that dramatic look down the aisle, but honestly the first look was much more personal to me. By far.
Post # 16
Id go for it if he will. 🙂 You really cant take it in when you get to the alter if you know what I mean. You barely get a moment up there at all.. You cant tell him how handsome he looks and hug him nor can he tell you how amazing you look.. Certainly not like you can with a private first look… Also 98% of the time brides & grooms never get to enjoy cocktail hour and really get to mingle with guests. You have to blaze through it at the reception.
Back in the day many brides & grooms walked together up the aisle… The whole not seeing each other stemmed from arranged marriages. IDK Im just not superstitious.. I think in time first looks will become more of a tradition.
Im eloping, we are getting ready together and walking down the aisle together. I want to tie his tie and fix his collar. Im cheesy. 😀