(Closed) I need advise please

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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818 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

I’d give it another week or so. Perhaps leave a message along the lines of miss, you, need to hear from you by____ to finalize some wedding details otherwise I’ll assume you’re going to be coming as a guest, I understand if you can’ commit to being a Bridesmaid or Best Man, etc.

Good luck!

Post # 4
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5263 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

I never understand why people do this, but it seems quite common. Since she seems to be posting on Facebook, I’d write a message on her wall just saying “Hey X, it’s been awhile since I’ve heard from you. I have some wedding business I’d love to talk to you about, but I’ve been having a hard time getting ahold of you. What’s the best way?” 

If she doesn’t respond to that after all the other ways you’ve tried to contact her, I think you just need to assume that she’s backing out without telling you to your face, which would be too bad since you were so considerate. 

Welcome to the ‘bee! I hope to see happier posts from you in the future. 😛

Post # 5
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1232 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

I wouldn’t automatically assume she’s out and take her off of your website. It is rude of her to not reply to your messages, but maybe they’re going through some financial troubles and she’s embarrassed to tell you that she doesn’t have the money for the dress yet. I would call her or email her one more time and ask her if she still wants/is able to be in the wedding (in the nicest way possible) Is there any way you can offer to help her out financially?

Post # 6
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375 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Wow that is really tough. I wouldn’t assume either but MAN she needs to at least talk to you. How long since the no call response? I would say call her again a few times and just say you really need to talk. FB is not a mode of primary communication especially for older people so make it personal. I would check in with her and then politely tell her that shes not a good fit for this day and that you need people who will be a little more attentive to your needs…it would probably be better for your friendship this way!!

Post # 7
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125 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I agree with lily!

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