Post # 1
So, as some of you know, we are kind of working “against the clock” to add on to our family with some children.
Fiance and I are fine with me having a “bump” at the wedding… and are sure our families will be okay as well. Although it would be nice not to have to adjust my dress…
I have been researching Niagara for rooms and such for our guests and the cheapest are still almost $200 a night in August! It’s insanely expensive, because it is their peak time.
I spoke to a gentleman that I met at my business conference in Windsor who is a manager for one of the hotel properties in Niagara… I was just so lucky as to sit down at his lunch table one day! 🙂
Anyhow, he told me that I should try for end of March/beginning of April. Rooms are able to be cut back in price tremendously and the wedding coordinators usually chop rates as well.
So, now I really want to move the wedding date to April 1st. It was the day Fiance and I officially became a couple! 🙂 And our room cost dropped $600 when I looked online! It would only be $409 for a Jr. Presidential Fallsview Suite with whirlpool and fireplace… That’s for 2 nights. NICE! 🙂
The only thing is.. we already sent out the save-the-dates with August 17, 2012.
So, what do you think bees? Should we move the date up to help us all save and add a little more sentiment to the day? Or is the date too concrete now that the guests have received their save-the-dates (only 30 were sent.. it will be a small wedding.
Opinions and guidance are, as always, much appreciated! 🙂
Post # 3
I would call each guest and let them know (or email, if you communicate with them that way). I see no reason why you couldn’t move the date now. There’s plenty of time.
If guests have already booked flights (which is not likely), I’d offer to pay whatever they have to spend to change the flight.
Post # 4
If it works best for you and Fiance then just send a little card with the updated date to guests. I am sure they would understand.
Post # 5
I agree that you can change the date as long as you let each guest know what you’re doing. Since your wedding was scheduled for August, I doubt too many have put a lot of thought into travel arrangements yet.
Post # 6
I definitely think you should move it up. Since only 30 were sent out, it won’t be too difficult to let them all know of the date change.
I hate to say this but it seems like you sent your STD’s out pretty early, unforseeable events like this are why you’re supposed to wait a bit! Okay sorry, that was just my two cents, I know there’s nothing you can do about it now. I’m sure everyone will understand!
Post # 7
Are you prepared to have a snowy wedding day? I’m from Upstate (Albany area) too, and in recent years it was still snowing through the end of March. With the weird weather we had this year, who knows what winter will bring. I only ask because your visions of an August wedding will probably be very different than what you would get having an April 1st wedding.
As for the STD’s, I don’t think the date is set in stone but I would inquire to see if any of your guests have already made arrangements to attend in August (i.e. reservations, plane tickets, etc…). If there are no guest issues then I think changing your wedding date is fine. For a small guest list I would probably opt to contact each family personally to explain the situation and inform them of the new details. Simply sending out another STD could be confusing for some.
Post # 8
@LoveMySailor1018: Yes, they just started arriving to peoples’ homes last week.. which is why I feel bad…
However, most of our family is traveling to Niagara Falls from Kentucky, Indiana, Illinois, Las Vegas… you get the picture 🙂
So travel arrangements, planning, hotel… all need to be made. And with a destination like Niagara Falls during Peak Season in August… you don’t want to wait TOO long to have people not be able to get a hotel room easily or a flight…
I would have waited longer had I been getting married at a lower key location and my guests didn’t have so far to travel.
Post # 9
I think it’s fine to change the date at this point! Just let everyone know as soon as possible.
ETA: If you think there’s anyone who might have been super “on it” and already booked their flight, you should maybe check with that person first…
Post # 10
I wouldnt let the fact that you sent out save the dates stop you if it works out in every other aspect.
Post # 11
You should personally call everyone though.
Post # 12
Oh, that’s even better then! That way people won’t have had time to make arrangements and have to change them!
Post # 13
- Wedding: June 2010 - New York Botanical Garden
I would call them as others have suggested and I think it’s fine to change the date – but I would definitely commit to it and make the calls asap so people don’t start making plans!
Post # 14
Thanks everyone for being supportive! It is really a difficult decision as I don’t want to do a “oopsie” save the date…
I do think that once our parents explain the cost savings and my condition and doctor’s recommendation to begin fertility drugs ASAP if we want any children together, everyone will be totally understanding. We did only invite a small group of family and friends, after all! 🙂
I just hate to have something out there that has another date. We were both so set on the date in August and wanted to give our families/friends lots of time to plan. I really hate to bump the date on them… but hey, things happen! And anyone who knows Fiance and I knows that we want to add a baby into the mix and that we are ready to do so!
Post # 15
Yes, I’m just getting home from said convention after a 13 hour train ride (ICK)… so Fiance and I are going to really discuss it this evening and begin phone calls to the invitees to see what they have done and run it past them and personally apologize for the change… if we decide to change it after talking to everyone.
Post # 16
Oh I absolutely hope you end up moving it up. Good luck!