(Closed) I need baby shower advice!

posted 9 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 3
40 posts
  • Wedding: May 2007


I would ask your BFF regarding payment, and maybe you two could come up with a compromise that fits both of your needs and wallets.  Does your mom want to help out at all…you mentioned her feelings about not playing games or opening presents?

Don’t feel weird about registering!  You are staring a family…that is what most married couples are expected to do!   And, you can have a baby shower anytime.  My BFF lives out of town and didn’t want to travel in her 3rd trimester, so we had it when she was 25 weeks.  You can do whatever fits your schedule. 

Just a suggestion, but one of my friends had a couples shower at a bar (we live inChicago- no smoking in bars)/restaurant combo on a Sunday afternoon and we watched the Bears play (football – incase you don’t know)…they are HUGE Bears fans.  She had all of her guests bring the presents UNwrapped, and put them on a table…so there was no traditional ‘unwrapping of gifts.’  Also, she had all of the guys bring a pack of diapers (whatever size, quantity and brand…didn’t matter), and for every guy who participated, they were entered into a raffle for some type of guys gift (I don’t remember what it was, but it was only for guys).  I thought it was a great way to get the guys involved.  You could do a ‘pin the tail on the baby’ game, or a ‘guess that baby food’ game…those aren’t too gender specific, and they are so funny to watch.

One last thing…I think this is becoming very popular now…since you are doing the sex reveal thing at the shower, you can take that envelope your doctor gives you regarding the sex of your baby, and give it to the place that will be making your cake.  Then, they will open the envelope, and die the cake (under the frosting), either pink (for girl), or blue (for boy).  Then, when you cut into the cake, you will know, girl or boy.  Just make sure they do a neutral frosting and decoration on top, so they don’t give anything away too soon.  Just a little something different then opening the envelope. 

 Have fun!

Post # 4
1479 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I recently went to a couples shower that was brunch and then gift opening- no games. I think people do like to see the gifts that people brought, so you might not be able to get away with not doing that part, but if you’d rather it be more of a casual, socializing party, than you could easily do that at a couple’s shower. Let’s face it, guys don’t want to play “Sniff the diaper and guess the candy bar” any more than you do! 🙂

Maybe see if your mom could co-host or another close friend; that takes a bit of the burden of hosting off your friend’s shoulders. You should be able to just show up and be the guest of honor though. 🙂

Post # 5
664 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

#2. People will want to see you open the gifts. You and your hubby can open gifts at the same time making this a much shorter process though. Or you could have people bring the gifts unwrapped. That’s a great eco-friendly, non-opening option!

3. Definitely register. The point of a shower is that people are giving you gifts. You are less likely to get three of something you don’t want if you register. Even if you just put the basics you want on your registry, it helps people to know what brand or kind of monitor/towels/car seart/etc. you want. Plus, you will get a discount on items left on your registry after the baby is born. The discount is worth registering.

4. Your close friends already know you aren’t gift grabby, an e-mail insn’t necessary. But since they are your close friends they will probably want to send you something. I would be upset if my close girlfriends didn’t send me any info on their showers just because I was out of state!

5. You’ll want some type of organized activity to have at the shower. You don’t have to do games. If you are planning to have some type of door prizes, you’ll want a way for people to win those (a sticker on the bottom of random plates, bringing a pack of diapers like mentioned before, or some other thing you think of). I think you could search online for co-ed baby shower ideas and find a bunch of options.

6. You can have the shower anytime that works for you. There’s not a right or wrong time to do it.

Enjoy your shower. It’s a shower of blessings on you, your husband, and your baby. People want to bless you with the things you need to get started with this little one.

Post # 6
144 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

My sister had a coed shower and the game that the guys seemed to like was one in which you had to drink out of a baby bottle the fastest. The baby bottles were filled with beer!



Post # 7
1116 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

We just had a co-ed shower yesterday that went pretty smoothly, so here are my little notes:

#2 hubs and I opened gifts together, kind of alternating.  we also cut and passed cake before we opened presents, so people kind of had a little something else to occupy them while we opened presents.  those things made it all a little more relaxed.

#4 we sent invites to some out of state family/friends, just kind of as a we’re thinking of you gesture.  we got gifts from a few, phone calls from others, i don’t think anyone felt obligated to send anything though.

#5 we did three games: the string around the belly one, celebrity baby names quiz, and a remember what baby stuff was on the tray game.  one of the guys actually won the last game, and i think the celebrity one was the only one the guys felt clueless on.  they all went fairly quickly and it was nice to have a few activities to pull everyone together.

#6 some people are so fussy about when the shower is held.  we’re having twins so we chose to have ours a little earlier, all around 27-31 weeks, since they’ll likely come early.  to be honest, we’ve gotten a few comments from people about ‘why are you having a shower in may if you’re not due til july’, but most people totally understand.  I liked having it earlier too since I was a lot more comfortable and happy and cute than I know I’ll be capable of in another month or two.  if you’re doing a gender reveal, I think around the 5-6 month mark is totally logical!

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