(Closed) I need ering help!

posted 8 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
8738 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@petitebride6: Could you suggest to him that instead of getting a separate wedding band, you reset the diamond in a more elaborate setting? So you don’t have to worry about “two rings sliding around”.

Post # 4
653 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Do you have a picture of it on you?

Post # 5
3758 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I don’t want to seem harsh or mean either but at least you have one =) I lost mine and now i would love to have any ring and i would show it off proudly. maybe if you give it time you will learn to love it. you would definitely show us because i doubt it looks bad =)

Post # 6
5657 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2012

What a horrible predicament to be in. 🙁 This is why I’m happy my boyfriend and I chose our exact ring together! Neither of us have to worry about this very problem.

Not sure what to tell you… there isn’t much you can do now. Your choices are either to learn to love the ring you have, maybe get a wedding band that would make it more your style (surely there are enhancers that would work for your ring somewhere out there?) or try and gently tell him you don’t like the style, emphasizing that you love HIM and want to marry HIM. In the end, I think he should want you to have a ring you love!

Post # 7
73 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2006

I actually understand your predicament.  I have a solitaire which isn’t my first choice either.

You can either get a band with more bling, and/or upgrade the setting at a later date.

I actually found I didn’t really know what type of setting I wanted until I had been engaged for a while, so the later option works out well for me.

Post # 8
3374 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I completely understand your predicament. I too am not fans of solitaire rings, but they look AMAZING with eternity wedding bands. I almost got a solitaire ring just so it would look good with its eternity wedding band. And I think cathedral bands look good with wedding bands. Just a thought!

Post # 9
222 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

If I were in your situation. and I really hated the ring, I would ask if we could pick a more elaborate mount and have it set instead of getting a wedding band.

But… I’m pretty easy to please. As long as it wasn’t hideous, I would be happy.

Post # 11
4755 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

As much as you might not want to hear I think you’ve got to suck it up. Mention in passing one day how you plan to wear only your wedding band when you get it and that you think it’s classier that way but will obviously sport the Engagement Ring just perhaps on a different finger or only on special occasions.

Tell him you’ve always imgained only wearing the wedding band alone and have some reasons why you like it. “Simple” elegant etc…

Then pick the wedding band of your dreams!


BTW- the ring looks just fine on your finger, so it’s not like it’s ugly or doesn’t look right on your finger so don’t worry about that.

Post # 12
714 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@petitebride6:  Count me in with the people who say to learn to love it. 

This is not a predicament, dilemma or problem unless you make it one.  Get some perspective – of all the problems you could possibly have, having a diamond engagement ring from the man you love can’t possibly rate very high can it? 

Post # 13
654 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I was lucky that we picked mine out together, because I’m incredibly picky and surely would have hated anything he brought home.  That being said, I would suck it up and learn to love it.  It’s just a symbol, after all.  I went the first year of my engagement with no ring at all, and that was fine too.

Also, is it possible that he got a solitaire because he couldn’t afford additional stones?  I’ve never been to Tiffany (I’m not sure we even have them here) but I know it’s expensive.  I have a three-stone myself, and it doubled our budget.  Just get a pretty wedding band to complement it and I’m sure it will grow on you.

Post # 14
602 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

How about getting a ring enhancer?  You can get one that makes your ring to look like a 3 stone one.

Post # 15
669 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

For what it’s worth, I think that is a truly beautiful ring; however, I am a fan of solitaires.  Best of luck in trying on wedding bands and/or a new engagement ring.  It will all work out for the best in the end 🙂

Post # 16
987 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

It’s your attitude towards it that needs changing. 

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