Post # 1
First time poster here. I’ve been using these boards as a resource the last couple of months and have had SO many questions answered without even having to ask one – so thank you, everyone, for your thoughts that are shared throughout weddingbee. I have found it an invaluable wedding resource! 🙂
I’m getting married August 4th and I HATE my wedding dress. There. I said it.
I bought my dress on my first day out shopping (rookie mistake) and had doubts from the get go. I ended up showing my fiance and while it wasn’t his first choice, he said he does think I’m beautiful in it. I have had regrets since I ordered it and it just came in today so I got to try it back on – and I hate it. I even cried after I put it on. 🙁
It’s a 2BeBride Kathy Ireland dress. I have a Justin Alexander sash to go with it. The dress can be found here: http://kathyirelandformoncheri.com/wedding-dresses/231209/
I just don’t feel gorgeous in this dress. I don’t get excited by the thought of wearing it on my wedding day. Is it really as bad as I think it is? Am I making a mountain out of a mole hill? Should I scramble to find something else before my wedding in August? Help!
I would also love potential dress recommendations for my body type. I’m 5’10” and a size 4 or 6.
Thanks so much in advance. 🙂
Post # 3
I honestly think it’s gorgeous and very flattering! But nobody can make you love it but you. Maybe you could try to fix it in some way if you can pinpoint a problem. Like, maybe adding cap sleeves would feel more “you.” Or a different sash. Or the right jewelry. I think it’s beautiful, but I’m a stranger on the Internet so my opinion is not as important as yours!
Post # 4
You are gorgeous in that dress.
Post # 5
Thank you for your kind words! It makes me feel better. I think my problems with the dress stem from the fact that I personally think it looks too A-line and I don’t like that style on my body type. I also think it looks pretty plain since there isn’t any beading on the gown. I wish it was a little tighter in the back — maybe even more of a trumpet style. I just wanted to buy a gown that makes me go “wow!!!” and this one just makes me feel underwhelmed.
Post # 6
I think your dress is gorgeous on you! But if you’d like to make it more mermaid, is there anything that alterations can do to pull it in from the hips to the upper thighs to make it more fitted to the shape you prefer? I’m not a seamstress, but it doesn’t seem like it would be too difficult to consider! Gorgeous sash too!
Post # 7
With that body, you’d look good in anything! Seriously, you look beautiful in the dress, but it sounds like you want a more sexy “wow” look. It looks a little loose on you right now. What would happen if you got it altered to be more form fitting? I think that the dress is beautiful on you, in a very sweet way.
Post # 8
You shouldn’t cry when you try on your wedding dress, (HUGS). Since your not happy with it buy another dress. You have the time and bridal salons will help you out. Go out and find your dream wedding dress, you deserve to look and feel beauitful on your wedding day.
Post # 9
It’s beautiful and it looks amazing on you, I think once you have the alterations done maybe you will like it more. Also LOVE that sash!
Post # 10
The dress is beautiful and it doesn’t need any beading to make it more beautiful. I agree with you that the back should fit a little bitter or a little tighter. You should try it on with a veil. Also you get a veil with beading edge I believe and that might make you feel more dressy. However, if you don’t feel YES to the dress, maybe you can look around for more just in case your dream dress pops up.
Post # 11
The dress looks great on you. so i voted keep it. but saying that its not about what everyone else thinks its about what YOU think so if you dont LOVE it and you have the money find a new one you love
Post # 12
It looks fantastic on you!
Post # 13
It’s gorgeous on you. Seriously beautiful. Can you pinpoint what it is that you hate about it?
ETA: I just read your comment about not liking it because it’s too A-line. Alterations can make it more fitted through the hip, which may make you feel a lot differently about it. It’s worth looking into. I think when it fits you right, you’ll feel differently, because right now, it’s too big, so it’s not really showing your figure like it should. I felt the same way when I tried mine – it looked worse than when I put on the sample because at least the sample was clipped so it appeared fitted, but mine did not. I really think that alterations will make all the difference in the world here.
Post # 14
Honestly… I’m kind of INSANELY JEALOUS at how amazing you look! That dress is incredible on you!
Post # 15
I think you look beautiful!! And I love the sash! But truthfully, I would say at least look at other dresses if you aren’t happy. I think it would be something that would haunt you if YOU felt you didn’t look beatiful on your wedding day. I know of someone, and read posts of people, who hated their wedding dress. And then they hate their pictures, videos, etc. of the day b/c it shows the dress they didn’t feel great in. Personally, the dress was never too big of a deal for me (I bought a replica from China) but I know if I didn’t love, love the dress I got I would find another b/c of the other aspects it would hinder for me.
But, again, I think you look beautiful and with alterations would maybe love the dress more! However, if you want to look/buy another, then hold off on the alterations…
Post # 16
Well, I’m blown away by all the sweet comments — thank you all so much! At any rate it’s good to know that if I stay with this dress and don’t become a two dress bride, it does look beautiful.
I definitely appreciate everyones’ comments about how altering should make it appear more figure flattering and beautiful. I feel like the sample (that’s the pictures that I posted above) fit a bit better than the dress that was ordered in my actual size and that I received today. I’m not sure why that is. But it gives me hope to know that people have had incredible experiences with altering and that I might feel much better after a few fittings.
I just thought that when you chose a wedding gown, you were supposed to KNOW it was the right one and have that incredible bridal feeling. Maybe that’s because I’ve been watching too many episodes of Say Yes to the Dress. 😉 I don’t know. It’s probably an unrealistic expectation and I feel bad for basing this decision off of a feeling.
I’ve thought about trying on a few more dresses and seeing if anyone of them give me that giddy, excited feeling. But then again, I don’t want to rush and make a quick decision simply to get rid of this dress. I think I’ll make my alterations appointment tomorrow morning and go from there. 🙂
Edit: For those that were asking what was wrong with my dress – I thought of another thing. I didn’t notice it in the sample but in my dress, I’m realizing that there is some metal work (for lack of a better term) in the bodice of the dress and it’s causing my breasts to look POINTY. It’s very 50’s bra style. And I dislike the look tremendously, for obvious reasons. Even my aunt and mom (who really love the gown and its elegance) were shocked by it and were brainstorming solutions. It’s pretty bad.