(Closed) I need help

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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2513 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

Well.. I was going to say that maybe you can talk to her one on one and explain your feelings..then I read your very last paragraph so it pretty much sounds like that’s out because it wouldn’t do any good.

I don’t know what else to say except to just grin and bear it (or just bear it ;), and be glad you don’t have to see her every day!

I hope you can still have a happy wedding. Just avoid her as much as possible!

Post # 4
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1566 posts
Bumble bee

I’m sorry she frustrates you and makes you upset. But honestly, it doesn’t sound like she is being that horrible. Rather, it’s her personality and her quirks (you noted she treats everyone in a similar manner). Which makes me wonder if maybe what needs to change in this equation is your reaction to her comments.

If she is generous and friendly, it seems a bit much to complain that you aren’t comfortable with getting gifts and money from her! I agree her comments about food are not super-sensitive, but you have to cut her some slack. I have some relatives who are similar (always giving advice, treating me like a child, and telling me to eat more). But that is just who they are, due to cultural background, age, and personality. So I just brush it off and don’t let it get to me.

I wouldn’t be too upset about this situation and try not to let her comments get to you.  

Post # 5
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4001 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’m gonna have to agree with girlwitharing.  Maybe there’s background info we’re missing.  Or its one of those ‘you had to be there’ experiences that you had this past weekend and other weekends with her, but she doesn’t sound exactly like Cruella Devil.  She does however sound like someone that’s hard to tolerate because she’s just ‘too much’.  That being said, I don’t know that there’s much you can do to ensure it doesn’t happen at the wedding.  I think you’ll just have to avoid her as much as you possibly can that weekend.  Good luck!

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