I need help

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 2
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Honey bee

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Khala :  what do you need help with, exactly?

Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper

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Khala :  Leave him. You can do better. He might not be laughing, but either way he lied to you. 

Post # 4
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2016

So he slept with someone else while you were broken up? 

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

So technically you were broken up when he slept with the other girl? Is that correct?

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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2017

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Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2019

The sleeping with someone else so quickly after a breakup is somewhat concerning, but I think it’s more concerning that you’ve broken up and gotten back together several times throughout your relationship. I don’t think that kind of dynamic or normal or healthy. I think you should really figure out what is causing you to repeatedly break up, and if those things have truly been remedied at this point. If not, you will more than likely fight about them again and break up again. 

You should be in a relationship that is not this volatile or explosive. What he did when you guys were broken up isn’t entirely your business (I’d be incredibly hurt, but he didn’t cheat or technically do anything wrong), but the way you interact with each other during your relationship, including this pattern of breakups and makeups, is certainly something you should address. Are you okay doing this kind of thing on and off forever? If not, I’d leave and find a new relationship where neither of you packs up and leaves when the going gets tough. 

Post # 13
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Busy bee

Advice? Leave him, obviously. What are you still doing with this man. It takes much more than love and lust to make a relationship work. It takes trust, loyalty, hardwork, RESPECT….all these things he is not willing to give you, and now you can’t trust him. That is the only advice. Leave. There is nothing to salvage this relationship.

Post # 14
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Helper bee

Well, what do you mean exactly that you saw they slept together like it said exactly that in the texts? You definitely need to tell him and confront him while the texts are still there….you will never be able to not say anything for the rest of your relationship so get it out now. It’s probably not worth staying together if you have broken up multiple times. How old are you both? I know 7 years seems like a long time but if you aren’t happy it doesn’t matter how long you have been together. You can do better. 

Post # 15
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2016

I vote move on. Not because he slept with someone else but because a relationship with a bunch of back and forth like you described doesn’t sound healthy or like a positive contribution to your lives.

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