Post # 1
I have two bridesmaids, my cousin and my sister. I picked out the dresses and when I told them how much it would cost they both bailled on me! I told them 2 months in advance they would need the $ for the dresses, I am getting married in November and was told the dresses need to be ordered in June. Now my bmaids are telling me they can afford the dresses One bmaid said she could have the $ in July but I don’t know when the dresses will come in and then they might have to pay extra $ for rush alternations, and one bridesmaid is a size 10 and the other a size 26/28 so I can’t go to JC Penny and find the same dress with both sizes. What am I supposed to do?
** The dresses are from Davids Bridal and would be $160ish with tax. There is no way I can afford to front them. I am on a super tight budget of $1200
Post # 3
Do you have enough money to front for them & tell the bm’s they can pay you weekly or monthly?
Post # 4
Can I ask how much the dresses cost? Are they outrageous enough that it’s understandable that the girls can’t afford them? Since you only have 2 girls, maybe you can get away with them wearing different dresses in the same color?
Post # 5
How much is the dress? And two months notice isnt really that much these days, usually bridesmaids know well ahead of time.. Where are you ordering the dress from? Because some places ship out their dresses much faster
Post # 6
How much were the dresses? If they really were quite expensive (well over $100 and/or double or triple what they’d normally pay for a dress) I’d suggest that you pick a different dress that’s more in the range they’re able to pay. If it’s not particularly expensive I’d suggest that you offer to pay for a portion of it. Maybe offer to give them each $40 or $50 toward it.
Edit: yea, I agree with the poster below. If your whole budget is $1200 you really can’t expect someone to pay $160 for a dress they’ll wear once. You’re gonna have to loosen the strings. Maybe post a thread with what you want in a Bridesmaid or Best Man dress and ask for people to find you something similar for $60 or less. The bee sleuths can probably drum up something.
Post # 6
If the budget for your wedding is only $1200, then it seems to me that you could be a little more sensitive to them not being able to spend much money.
You are asking your bridesmaids to pay, individually, what is the equivalent of more than 10% of the entire cost of your wedding? wow. that seems a bit extreme.
With a budget like that, I would suggest a bit more flexibility on your part, perhaps just tell them they should try and buy the same color and length dress from anywhere they want.
Post # 7
I got a DB bridesmaid dress in three days after ordering it online. If they can afford it if you give them more time, just give them more time. My friend is getting married in October and we still haven’t bought our DB dresses yet. Everyone we know gets them much quicker than that; they just need to cover their asses in case something happens that really does take that long. I’d double check about the extended size taking longer, but I still think you have more time.
Another thing to consider is the cost. While $160 isn’t that bad for a bridesmaid dress, it’s still over 10% of your budget. You could just scale back your dresses and let them pick their own dresses in a similar color/style. A lot of weddings are doing that not just for cost reasons but because it looks to good! Just something to consider.
Post # 8
@red_rose: We posted almost the same thing 10 seconds apart haha. GMTA!
Post # 9
oh, and for the record, this situation is not exactly “bridesmaid dress hell.”
that would be like the girl whose Maid/Matron of Honor shortened her dress without asking! or having it be 2 weeks before your wedding and the dresses haven’t come in, etc…
Post # 10
I am on a very tight budget and I left it up to the girls in my party to pick dresses that looked good on them and they are in all different sizes. I took two of my 4 girls to DB and let them try on like 20 different dresses to see what they liked, there were 2 finalists. I then decided that the cheapest of those two was going to be it. The dresses are 129. My wedding is in Sept and I was told 8 weeks to order them. So I told everyone today in fact that they need to order them by the end of June. A wedding dress takes longer than Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses so you might want to double-check that.