(Closed) I need help deciding on the carat weight of this ring!!

posted 7 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
331 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Do what YOU want. If you think the smaller one looks better–it does. Don’t worry about what other people think–this is my biggest problem and I hate that I let other people influence my decisions. With my wedding, I am trying to do things differently. If ANYONE thinks he’s cheap for buying the 1/4 carat that you like–screw them. Those are not people you want in your life anyway. If, however, you like the 1/2 carat that he can afford–go for it. Either way I am sure it will be beautiful, but remember that the only thing that matters is that you and your Fiance are happy with the purchase. That is it. Good luck : ) 

Post # 4
4945 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

That’s a very pretty ring! If you want the larger, then get it, but don’t do it because of what other people will think!


Post # 5
661 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@Flipflops17:  Don’t go with a stone that is too big for your fingers. I also wear a 4 and my ring which is an heirloom has a center stone that is 1 ct. The ring cannot be altered in any way, so I’m fine with that, but I can tell you, when a ring is top heavy for your finger, it can spin around on your finger and bang into things, so you have to be careful. Anyway I agree with Miss Sooner. Go for what you want.

Post # 6
4651 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

go for the 1/2 carat if he can afford it. it’s better than asking for an upgrade later, when you will lose the sentimentality of the original. and 1/2 carat is not too big on a size 4 finger. i have a 1.5 carat on a size 5 finger… not overwhelming at all.

Post # 7
494 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I would chose the one YOU love right now.  You will be the one wearing the ring, so pick the one you like best not what others will think. 

Post # 8
194 posts
Blushing bee

Yes hun, it has to be about you and what you want. Well, and your Fiance too, haha. But in the end, you are going to be the one to wear it, and it is all about you and your comfort zone. But don’t choose something because of what others want you to choose. 🙂 I know you will make a good decision! 

Post # 9
1418 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

get the bigger one because you will probably have diamond shrinkage in the future, even it is the far future! You will get used to the size fast! 🙂

Post # 10
581 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

You should do what YOU want.  With such a small finger, the ring will look larger than 1.4c anyway.  If you think people will judge, lie to them! lol  Tell them it’s 1/2c.  I’m sure they won’t know the difference!

Post # 11
2576 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I would go with the 1/2 if it is in budget.

Trust me, future you will thank yourself!

Post # 12
60 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Very pretty ring!  I say go for whichever one you want and don’t pay any attention to what others want or think. You will be the one wearing it all the time so you need to be 100% happy with it.  I also have a small ring finger (size 3.5), and we gals with smaller hands can get away with smaller stones. The center stone on my ring is 3/4 of a carat, but everyone always guesses it to be 1.5 to 1.75 carats because it looks so large on my small finger plus all the smaller diamonds (baguettes and small rounds) in the setting surrounding the main diamond make it look much larger than it really is. I love my ring, but with as wide as the setting is on my small finger, I won’t be able to wear a wedding ring with it. I’m going to have to wear either the engagement ring alone or the wedding band alone.

Post # 13
246 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

Pick whichever one you like best now.  After all, the ring is for now, who knows what kind of upgrades or new sparkly bands will get added to your set during your life with FH.

I have short, size 5 fingers and told my Fiance I wanted something no bigger than a 1/2.  I have to say the 1/2 looks pretty big on my finger some days and certainly does spin once in awhile.

Post # 14
4414 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

It may be that you are just used to smaller rings on your fingers.  It takes time to get used to the way it will look on your hand. I thought my rings looked HUGE, almost gaudy, when I first got them, but now I look at them, and they look normal on my hand…heck, now I look at them and think I could have even gone larger, although I have no intention of doing so now, because I absolutely love them!

My advice would be to try both sizes on. See which one you truly like the best. If you aren’t sure, then stretch yourself a bit, and go with what makes you slightly uncomfortable. Going a little bigger, as long as it is still in the budget, won’t hurt anything. You will get used to the way they look and then you won’t be able to imagine ever having considered going smaller. 

Post # 15
193 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Girl, don’t let ring porn get to you!!!! It’s beautiful and if you feel it’s right, it’s right!! And it is beautiful!!! 

Post # 16
11233 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I wear a 4.5 and have a .25 center stone (.5 total) and it looks great. I tried on bigger, and they just look…weird/gaudy/etc. on my tiny fingers. Don’t let anyone influence your decision because THEY prefer bigger rings.

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