- 7 years ago
- Wedding: March 2010
A couple of months ago my mother asked if she could help out with the wedding–by hiring a wedding planner. (She’s the type of person that everything must be in her control or she’s offended). I told her that everything was already planned, but she told me that she really wanted to be able to get a second opinion and she felt I wouldn’t be offended if an outside party told me their opinion about my wedding. She also told me that what the Wedding Party saw would be something that the guests saw.
Well, when I decided the other week that I wanted to to paper flowers Fiance thought maybe hiring her wouldn’t be such a bad idea. I think his understanding was that she would be able to help out with making the centerpieces. Plus, it would appease my mother.
Yesterday was my meeting with the Wedding Party and my mother. We went over the ideas that I pretty much already had and the Wedding Party said that everything I had sounded amazing (since everything is already planned) and that I had some creative ideas she really liked. She also said she didn’t feel her services were really needed. But my mom insisted. She said she would love to have the Wedding Party help the day of, the night before, and for the centerpieces.
My mom wants to spend $1,000. She is broke. I just don’t feel like this appropriation of money is going to worth it. I would so so much rather her put this money towards something else since the Wedding Party obviously isn’t going to make the paper flowers for my wedding. Fiance and I believe this $1K could be put towards the honeymoon, or to our own place when we get married…really anything.
I just know my mom’s worried that everything won’t be perfect. And I don’t want to hurt her feelings over something so trivial. I’ve told her a million times I would feel super guilty if she was spending money on something that isn’t worth it. Please, any suggestions as to what to say? Can I even say “no” tactfully to her?