Post # 1
hi bees, im very new to this so bear with me.
ok so i need help with some family issues. i have barely spoken to my fathers side of the family since my grandparents pasted away over eight years ago. in the last 3 years i have not been invited to a single family event or spoken to them up until i got engaged 4 months ago and suddenly my cousins want to catch up for lunch and inviting me to their kids birthdy parties and have started asking about the wedding details. my father doesnt not care one bit if i dont invite any of them but there is room on our guestlist for them. should i make the effort to invite them when i havent made an effort for a good part of ten years?
Post # 4
@abbie017: i really wouldn’t miss them if they wernt there but now i have spoken to them about our plans i feel like they expect to be invited now
Post # 5
I think if you’ve told them about wedding plans, then you may need to invite them. On the other hand, if you really didn’t want them there, I don’t think it would be the end of the world.
Personally, I would invite them. I would see this as an opportunity to maybe start reconnecting with all of your dad’s family and rebuild relationships. Weddings to bring people together, and it seems like they are trying to make the effort to improve the situation, even if it did take a life changing thing like your wedding to make them make that effort.
Post # 6
Skip the STD, and decide closer to the date if things are going well then decide if you want to invite them.
I don’t see sending an STD ending well in this case.
Post # 7
People like to be around people when they look fun and interesting. Right now you look really cool as a bride to be. Your fiance clearly thinks you are special and your cousins are taking that cite to reach out and get to know you. They are probably hoping for an invite, but you don’t have to invite them if you don’t want to. If they are local you certainly can skip the STD. I’d wait to decide whether to include them in your wedding.