(Closed) i need help to undrestand

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

He sounds really immature.

You may love him, but I would say he made it pretty loud and clear – he doesn’t want to marry you and will ignore you when you bring it up.

I think 24 years is too much for an age difference. Find someone younger who wants to commit to you.

Good luck!

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2014

@nani_drei:  I can’t make too much of this without more information. How long have the two of you been together? Has he been married before?

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2014

@nani_drei:  Well, look. Even at your age, unless you want to have children, that’s not that long. He may need to get used to the idea for a bit longer. I’d say don’t freak out about it right now. Wait til about a year and a half, then tell him it’s time to fish or cut bait. Some men believe you have to spend four seasons with a woman.

If you are looking at trying to get pregnant, though, you really need to get on the same page, and soon. Otherwise, you might miss your chance. If you want children of your own, it may be better to go to a sperm bank or find a willing male friend than to continue waiting. Keep him posted on this, of course. But no man is worth missing a chance at having children for, and any man who might be won’t make you wait so long that this becomes an issue.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Manhattan Church Rec Center

Its Ova… Move on

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

@EffieTrinket:  +1

he seems really immature. if he loves you age shouldnt matter. 

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

@nani_drei:  It was a mistake giving him the promise ring. you may have fights but that doesnt mean you give him the ring back. what are you going to do when you fight with an engagement ring? he probably thinks its over because you made the final choice to end it by giving him the ring back.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Manhattan Church Rec Center

@nani_drei:  Because I FEEL (personal oppinion) that once a man has reached a certain age that he is very set in his ways. I can’t stand it when a man will drop off the face of the plannet for X-amount of days without calling someone they are supposed to love. How did you know he wasn’t dead in a ditch somewhere? His extreme reluctance to have an open-honest convo about what is good for the BOTH of you is also a big red flag.

Maybe you spoke too soon…Maybe you spoke at a different time…Maybe he isn’t ready.

Who knows with men.

I hope everything works out for you.

Post # 15
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Even if he does love you, and you love him, he clearly doesn’t know how to communicate his emotions effectively. If you can’t do that, a marriage can’t survive. I’d move on.

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