- 5 years ago
- Wedding: October 2014 - Disney
OK many of you here know my story. I put a large downpayment on a wedding at Disney after our engagement, and last spring I lost my job. I have complex expensive health issues that are costly, and potentially disabling/lifethreatening. My husband and I married early last year and our families all know but still wanted to celebrate with us so we are having a celebration wedding at Disney in October.
As you can see my husband is a really amazing man with a great heart. He is there for me at my best moments finishing endurance races such as a half ironman. He is also there at my worst moments when I can barely walk and cant make it up the stairs. He never falters in his love for me or being there for me when I am happy or sad and frustrated. This last year he’s been through a roller coaster as we thought I was going to have to be sent out of state for medical evaluation, witnessed me go through thousands in medical testing, and to then be put on a drug that is giving me a much better life. I am thankful for everything he does even ironing my clothes on the way out the door, vacuuming when I hurt and cant, listening to me when I’m down, cheering me on at a half marathon, helping with my daughter etc. Because of this I want to do something amazing for him.
My husband currently has a silver wedding band from a jeweler he likes but he would rather have a nicer one. He has pushed it back our original intention was to upgrade it this year. I know my husband he doesnt often put himself first, and this will be put off for a while. As a thanks I have been silently banking money that he doesnt know about while paying for part of our wedding. I am talking to a jeweler this week that made his current wedding band. I’ve sent some photos of rings he likes and he says he can work with my budget. I have decided to make a completely custom ring for my husband. The question comes in how to present this gift. I plan on not doing it until the ceremony in October.
Our rings will be brought up by the flower girls in a box. I dont want him to see the ring when he hands me my ring. So I’m left with a quandry. Do I put his ring in a separate box and his current one in the box with mine? Or do I use 2 separate boxes one with each flower girl? Or should I make it evident with the first ring and then stop the ceremony with a statement and pull out the new ring? I really like the idea of not saying anything and just placing the new ring on his hand. The photographer is aware and ready to get the photo.