Post # 1
My husband and I have been married for 2 years. We got married in city hall and are now having a big wedding this summer (we had no money back then). Half of the people at the wedding already know that we are married.
Originally, I wanted some sort of ceremony, but now it’s just becoming a hassle and I feel pretty fake doing it. It’s extra $500 to have the ceremony at our venue, plus I would need decorations and flowers, and somebody to officiate the charade, and music. Besides the money, I just feel really stupid in front of everyone declaring my I dos when we’ve been married for a while now. My husband is on board with not having a ceremony, but my family and close friends think its rediculous if I don’t have one.
I guess I can’t just show up at the cocktail hour and say, “Hi, I’m here and we’ve been married for 2 yeas now.”
Do you have any auggestions on what you think I can do without having a real ceremony? Any ideas will be greatly appreciated!!! Thank you!!!
Post # 3
@tvv203: Maybe it can be vow renewal. I’ve seen a lot of people go full force with a vow renewal and act like it was their first time getting married again. Or, don’t know how you feel about this, but have a smaller “ceremony” with people that mean a lot to you or don’t already know and have a small one?
Post # 4
How come only half the people know you are married already ? I am confused
Post # 5
I agree with the vow renewal. Perhaps write your own vows that you promise to continue to love and cherish eachother and all of that. You don’t have to do ring exchange but perhaps another ceremonial thing like the candle or vase ceremony?
Post # 6
Half of the people don’t know because we weren’t going to tell anyone except for our parents. I wanted to keep it a secret so it wouldn’t look silly when we had our big wedding. But the secret got out. Parents told some people and so on. So we still have to tell half the guests that we are married. Not sure how to do that either.