Post # 1
Thanks for reading! I want my maid of honor to feel beautiful and comfortable in her dress, so I’m letting her pick whatever she feels the best in with regards to dresses. Maybe some of you could help me. She isn’t plus size (I think she wears a 10), she used to be very heavy and lost a great deal of weight with the help of her gastric bypass. She has had a lower body lift, but not an upper body lift yet. As a result, she is 5’2”, about 160lbs…her lower half is smaller, she has a cute little waist, but she is still uncomfortable with her upper body…her chest needs a lot of lift and her arms still have loose skin. People come in all shapes and sizes, so if any of you have any ideas of dress types that she might like, I would really appreciate any suggestions. I’d like to take her with me when I get fitted for a dress so that maybe she could get fitted with a beautiful dress as well.
Post # 3
I too have a Maid/Matron of Honor that is sensitive in this area. I have tried very hard to be open, and understanding about what she would like to wear. I have let her choose her dress and tried my hardest to make sure that she doesn’t get any type of notion whatsoever that I don’t care about her comfort or that I care about her weight. Just be sensitive and loving and I am sure she will be happy that you care that she is comfortable. It’s hard though as someone who does not wear the same size to envision what she likes, so you should just ask your Maid/Matron of Honor what kind of styles she feels most comfortable in. Probaly straps, maybe some rouching, and nothing that cuts off at the waist!
Post # 4
I would hardly call size 10 a plus size. Maybe you are confused about her size.
If she is self-conscious about her body, she may not want to try dresses on with you or in front of you. I would give her the option of finding a dress on her own, or with you. You can tell her what color you want , let her pick out the dress, then go with her at a later date to confirm the choice.
Post # 5
What about getting her a throw or cardigan that still looks dressy. That way she can cover up the bits that she it self-concuss about?
Post # 6
@julies1949: the OP said she ISN’T plus sized….
Just make sure she gets something SHE likes!
Post # 7
Bolero’s can be made with extra fabric, otherwise wraps and cardigans are really cute.
Post # 8
Good on you for respecting her needs 🙂 I would recommend something with cap sleeves, or as a PP suggested a little bolero to help cover her arms a little bit. Get something that’s cinched in the waist, maybe with a v neck to help show off her curves 🙂
(I’m probably about the same size as your Maid/Matron of Honor, although this is the biggest I’ve ever been. I find accentuating my waist and showing a little cleavage goes a long way in minimizing how big I look!)
Post # 9
giver her A line type dresses, maybe even something like a wrap dress, no strapless for sure. ANything that gathers at the waist and flows loosely out from there. as for the top what about a full boat neck type dress? gives her coverage, and holds the girls in and will be fitted until her tiny little waist and flow out from there.
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Post # 11
Thanks guys for your help!! I particularly love the dark blue and silver dress options! I’ll see what she thinks!! We’re perfectly comfortable talking about body image stuff, I mean, we’ve been best friends for like 20 years and I’ve been with her every step of the way. I really appreciate the dress type suggestions ans I think maybe a stole will be a great idea….I hate showing my bare arms too!! 🙂