Post # 1
My fiance and I decided to do a Catholic wedding. We are both Catholic, but he more so than I, so the church decision (who to marry us, where to get married) wasn’t really a huge concern of mine. My fiance is set on having it at a certain Church that him and his family has been going to forever.
So here’s my dilemma. They do not allow flower petals down the aisle, and no throwing of anything after the ceremony at the bride and groom.
We are not allowed to put a runner down the aisle so the petals don’t mash into the carpet. So I’m thinking maybe get fake petals to throw down and see if I can get a buddy to clean up afterwards (IF this is okay with the church). If that’s NOT allowed, does anyone have ANY ideas on what I can do? (and please don’t say, pick a different priest/church, because that isn’t an option)
This is just something I REALLY really wanted as part of my wedding. 🙁
Post # 3
What about having people throw petals outside the church!! …. You can have a pile of little baggies with petals and then the guests can form an additional line after the receiving line (if you decide to do one) on the way to your limo (or car whichever!) and they can throw them at you as you walk down the stairs (if there are staris) or just as you head towards the car. Sorry I know many churches are very strict about things inside the church as usually they are considered historic buildings and they dont want to ruin the history.
Post # 4
There are LOTS of options- these are just some of the one’s I’ve seen and can remember:
My cousin and her husband had sparklers for people to light outside the church. It wasn’t even dark at the time and still came out really great.
They sell water-degradable confetti- might that be OK with the church?
Or ribbon wands (see Mrs. Cupcake’s cool photos here: http://www.weddingbee.com/2008/03/10/a-grand-and-colorful-exit/)
Or a monogram for the floor (if there is an area without carpet): http://www.orientaltrading.com/ui/browse/processRequest.do?demandPrefix=11&productId=IN-42/4268&mode=Browsing&requestURI=processProductsCatalog&xsaleSku=42/1417&sku=42/4268&cm_sp=Cross%20Sell-_-Product%20Detail-_-Product%20Detail
What about noise-makers, like the one’s at new year’s that you blow into or spin around? It would make for funny pictures and lots of noise!
There’s always bubbles for outside the church.
Or instead of a whole aisle runner- what about something smaller- more like a ‘mat’ than a runner? Either just at the back of the church (so it’s there for the big reveal when you enter with your dad), in the middle (so it’s more prominent) or at the front (so it can be seen in the shots of the cermony)?
I didn’t have an aisle runner or flower petals- didn’t really make a difference to me. I know you say you really want them- but what about taking that money and putting it towards another type of church decoration?
What about those monogram wreaths for the doors? Or more ornate/larger pew decorations? What about candels to line the aisle? What about going all out for the altar decorations (they’ll probably be the most bang for your buck since they’ll be in all the cermony shots). Just something to keep in mind!
Post # 5
- Wedding: August 2009 - St. Thomas of Villanova Church & the F.U.E.L. House
How about a balloon release when you emerge from the church?
Post # 6
I would actually argue against a balloon release, it’s terrible for the environment, especially if there is ribbon or string attached.
Post # 7
My church had rules just like these! It was so disappointing not to have flower petals in the aisle or anything thrown outside. My chuch also vetoed fake petals because they said someone could slip on them and hurt themselves. Ridiculous. Our solution was that our florist made really pretty pew bows and I had to content myself with that. It turned out beautiful :).
Instead of throwing things, I liked the ideas of noisemakers, or ribbon wands best.
Are you having your reception at a separate site that allows throw items? You could do the throw items or petals on the ground outside there instead.
Post # 8
There is always a flower wand or pomander ball for the flower girl. For outside of the church there is always bubbles, my cousin got a great pic of her father in law blowing bubbles in front of her and the groom. It is a great candid pic.
Post # 9
I too would say no to the balloon release. The balloons land and animals eat them or get caught in the string. If not that- somebody will be hiking in the woods and find the remnants of the ballon. It’s basically littering.
What about releasing butterflies? Depending on the weather:
Post # 10
This must be a common thing with Catholic churches, as mine does not allow the same things. I agree with the others who suggested pew bows and bubbles. The bows make the church look more festive and the bubbles will make people smile! Both better for photos!
Post # 11
My church didn’t have a problem with those things. Well to be fair, I didn’t bother with petals. But I did have a runner. ???
So you seemed to really want the petals. First, could you incorporate pteals somehow at the reception. When they announce you, can the bridal party toss some. Or for your first dance? I guess you’d have to check with the venue.
Consider some other really beautiful options like having candleabras at the end of the pews. You never know…your newest favorite wedding idea is just a wedding coordinator’s thought away. (Or your thought, or the florist..)
Post # 12
This may sound antithetical, but butterfly releases are also not ecologically correct either. http://www.naba.org/weddings.html
Some churches are particular about what is allowed. Most of it is b/c they want to recognize the importance of the Sacrament of Marriage and what is not part of the actual Rite shouldn’t be part of the ceremony inside or outside the church. I wish they could be more flexible about things, too, but ceremony and tradition is kinda their big thing. Perhaps another reason for the rules is b/c they are likely concerned about getting sued b/c someone slips and falls.
I agree with some of the other posters about moving the petals to a different part of the day or doing the ribbon wands or sparklers. I suspect the church is not going to budge on their rules, however arbitrary them may seem.
Post # 13
We are also not allowed to throw anything or have anything dropped or placed on our aisle (there are heating grates that would cause all sorts of problems). So, we are having our flower girls hand flowers to the guests at the end of each row of pews. I think it will make a lovely photo to have everyone standing during my entrance with flowers lining the aisle. I have also seen people do a floral arch (which also allows for more people to participate in the ceremony) for both the entrance and the exit. I also like the idea of the noise makers that you twirl for when you exit the Church. Hope that helps.
Post # 14
My church also doesn’t allow petals .. or bubbles! They said that guests could slip and fall (as in, bubbles would make the ground "wet" and guests might slip). Go fig. But, I have planned all along on doing the ribbon wands. I’ve also seen people do pinwheels. I found these instructions on some website (I’ve forgotten where), so if you’re interested in making the pinwheels or ribbon wands, here ya go!
Ribbon Wands:What You’ll Need:20 yards of ribbon total (roughly) – a mix of widths and colors 1 dozen wooden dowels (12" inches long) 1 dozen flowers (paper, silk, or applique) Scissors Hot glue gun and glue sticks Ribbon Wand Instructions 1. Gather several lengths of ribbon of varied colors and widths and tie them in a knot around the end of a wooden dowel. 2. Use your glue gun to attach a flower (paper, silk, or sequin applique (as shown) on the the ribbon knot. 3. Neatly trim the ends of the ribbon at an angle. 4. Place in a vase or container, like the pin wheels, for your guests.
Pinwheels:What You’ll Need:Several sheets of 12" x 12" double sided scrapbook or decorative paper (a lighter weight paper, not stiff, heavy card stock) Round-headed pins 12" wooden dowels Hot glue gun and glue sticks A push pin Flower shaped craft punch A pair of scissors A ruler Pinwheel Instructions 1. Begin by measuring and cutting several 6" inch squares out of your paper. 2. Find the center of your one of the squares and mark it by poking a hole through it with your pushpin. (see figure 1) 3. Lay your paper pattern side down, and use your ruler to draw diagonal lines from each corner to make an "X". (see figure 1) 4. Cut along the diagonal lines, from all four corners, stopping one inch before you meet the hole in the center of your paper. (see figure 2) 5. Use your pushpin to make a hole in the right hand corner of each side of the square, just to the left of the line you just cut. (see figure 3) 6. Use your punch to cut out a paper flower. Stick your round-headed pin through the center of the flower. (see figure 3) 7. One by one, bring each of the four pin-holed corners to the center and stick the flower and pin through each of the four holes. (see figure 4 and 5) 8. Next, put the pin through the hole in the center of the square and set aside. 9. Make a pilot hole, using your pushpin, 1/2 inch down from the end of the dowel. 10. Put a drop of hot glue on the hole, and quickly insert the pin that runs through the pinwheel center into the glue and dowel. (see figure 6 and 7) Be careful not to let the pinwheel paper touch the glue on the dowel while it’s drying. If it sticks, it can’t spin. 11. Arrange your completed pinwheels in a vase or container like flower stems.
Post # 15
Oops, sorry I guess the copy and paste of the instructions didn’t come out too well. If you want me to email them, just PM me!
Post # 16
My church has these rules as well. I can’t even have fake flowers in the church. I am going to have people use these exploding streamers when we exit the church. Another thing you could do would be sparklers. Those are very romantic and fun as well!!!! I would go against a balloon release for those who suggested it. It is really bad for the environment and some poor birdies could get hurt from them!
Hope some of these helped! I will keep brainstorming!!!