Post # 1
Okay Bees…Perhaps I’m just having my first bridezilla moment, but can you give me your thoughts?
We’re having some children at the wedding, but only immediate relations – my sister’s children are actually in the wedding, and they’re just about it. One of my bridesmaids, who also happens to be my future SIL, has a 7 month old baby whom I adore, who I just kind of assumed would be there as well, although we offered to host her parent’s in the hotel if she wanted someone to babysit so her and my future BIL could enjoy the festivities. (They declined.)
Yesterday, Future Sister-In-Law asked (via text) if she could dress the baby up in green/blue/peacock feathers for the big day. I don’t know why, but I *really* dislike this idea – not necessarily that I don’t like the idea of dressing a baby up as a peacock, but just not at my wedding…when the wedding party (including my 2 nephews and niece) will be in muted hues of lavender, green, and grey. Of course, I hate confrontation so I just texted “I guess”, and now she thinks I don’t want the baby at the wedding at all. Now I feel guilty!
How can I say to her that I don’t like the idea of her proposed outfit without offending her – and should I say anything at all?
Post # 3
I’m assuming the peacock feather would be in a little headband of some sort and not actually feathers coming out of her diaper!? It sounds like she wants to dress the baby up in a nice outfit…and just so happened to think the addition of a peacock feather would be cute. Can you ask her to send you a picture of the outfit beforehand? Text her and say, “It sounds so cute but I can’t picture it. Can you send me a photo of the outfit?”
You aren’t telling other guests what colors they should/could wear, right? So what is wrong with the baby not matching the bridal party?
Post # 4
Aw I think it would be adorable!
Post # 5
@MsMindle: I don’t want her to match the bridal party…I guess I’m concerned that it will be so bright/whathaveyou that it will distract FROM the bridal party? Does that make sense? Maybe I’m just being paranoid. So far this wedding has been without drama – I don’t want it to start now!!
Post # 6
I think considering it’s the color of the bridal party. It would annoy me. Since she asked she has nothing to get upset at if you decline. I do think asking for a picture first beforing saying now would be nice.
Post # 7
@BeetleGrl215: I’m assuming the baby will be seated with your Future Brother-In-Law, right? Your Future Sister-In-Law is a bridesmaid so she will be walking down the aisle and by that point, baby will be surrounded by all the other guests and their sole focus and attention will be on those walking down the aisle. I wouldn’t worry about the outfit being distracting. This is one I would let go 🙂
Post # 8
@MsMindle: That’s actually a good question, because Future Brother-In-Law is in the wedding too. I assume she’ll sit with one of the aunts or something. But it seems the concensus I’m making a mountain out of a molehole. Noted, and moving on!!! 🙂
Post # 9
@BeetleGrl215: I would just ask her what she means exactly…or maybe say you thought the two of you could pick out a pretty dress for her together (that way you have some say 😉 ).
But honestly I don’t think this is something you can absolutely say no to. What if Aunt F shows up in fuschia? Or Uncle M has a bright orange dress shirt? You can’t control what guests wear and in the end I don’t think you will even notice because you’ll be busy marrying your best friend!