Post # 1
I live on Staten island, but am getting married on Long Island (St. Rocco’s church in Glen Cove, NY) and then the reception will be at the Crest Hollow Country Club, also in Long Island. Currently I have no idea where I should get ready that day. I live too far (over an hour) to get ready at my house to then schlep over to LI. The church has no room for me to get ready, and Crest Hollow will allow me (but only me) to use a suite to get ready starting at noon, but then my bridesmaids won’t be there with me. I also don’t have any friends/relatives in the LI area that could lend their house to me. Any ideas?
The 2nd issue is timing. If my ceremony starts at 2:30, what time do you think I should start getting ready? Not all my bridesmaids will get their hair/makeup done by my person, so there may only be 2 bms getting makeup/hair done with me.
3rd issue? Do you think I will need a limo to transport myself and the bms and gm to the church? I have 7 bms (including 2 MOH) and 7 gm. How do brides usually arrive to the church? In a limo? And who is usually in the limo with her? Also, my fiance doesn’t want to see me before the ceremony. Or should I just have a limo bring the wedding party to the reception after the ceremony (which is 20 min away) So many questions, help!!!
Post # 3
If I were you, I would find a hotel near the wedding and stay there the night before- then you can get ready in your hotel room. Check-out is usually at 11am, but play the bride card and they would probably let you check out late.
Usually the bride arrives at the church in a limo-of the weddings I’ve been in most of the time the BMs went with the bride to the church and then onto the reception also in a limo (with or without the bride and groom). I think it’s more important to transport the bridesmaids- since they’ve got bouquets and have to help you- rather than the groomsmen.
I would keep the BMs with you and let the GMs stay with your groom before the ceremony.
Post # 4
I will second rosychicklet and recommend you get a hotel room near your venue the night before.
My ceremony will be starting at 5 sharp but I will arrive at the venue by 4:45PM. My hair and makeup will start at 11:30 because I need to be ready by 2PM to do a traditional tea ceremony first. However, on the day-of, there will be a total of 3 hair and makeup artists to do myself, my 4 bridesmaids, my mom, Mr. JCM’s mom, and my two flowergirls.
As for the limo, do a few things:
- Check to see if the hotel you are staying at has a house car for you to use at no charge.
- Check to see if any local limo companies will do one-way transfers instead of booking hourly as they may have minimums doing it the hourly way.
- If you are on a budget, see if someone with a nice, clearn car can give you guys a lift!
Our current limo arrangement is booking a car for the absolute 3-hour minimum. It seats 10. It will transport my family members from the tea ceremony at the hotel to the venue and then come back and get more. It is only about 15 minutes each way. They will come back and pick up Mr. JCM and his boys. Then it will come back and get me and my girls and the flowergirl, ringbearer, etc. 🙂
I think there are no hard and fast rules about who rides with who in the limo. Do whatever you want for your situation!
Post # 5
Thank you rosychicklet and JCM for your comments! They’re helpful.
I currently made room blocks at a hotel near the reception. Would it be weird if I stayed there the night before, incase the guests see me? Or should I not care about that?
JCM: What exactly is a one-way transfer? Is it like just pick up, drop off only? I think ideally I would like to get a limo to bring me and the bms to the church, then after the ceremony for the limo to bring me, Mr. Lotus, and all the bms and gms to the reception venue. Should I book 2 separate limos, or use just one?
Do you guys know if hotels ever give discounts for brides?
Post # 6
Just wanted to suggest http://www.theinnatfoxhollow.com for you to stay at. It’s a bit on the pricey side at aroudn $225 per night, but it includes breakfast, and they have some nice grounds you can use for pictures. It is less than 0.5 miles away from the Crest Hollow Country Club. Their check in time is 3pm, but they are RARELY booked at capacity, so you can request an early check in. I stayed there for my wedding and I loved it! Granted i also got married at the Fox Hollow…but that’s besides the point! =)
Post # 7
If you are looking for less expensive options, there’s a Best Western, an Executive Inn also available in the area that you could stay at.
Post # 8
We are all staying at the hotel the night before and after the wedding. Our rehearsal, ceremony, and reception will all be there. Currently, I don’t know where I’m staying that night (I now it’s in the hotel, just not sure where exactly.. haha) but I think it’s better to stay there, who cares if the guests see you? I think it’s a good time to see people you haven’t seen in a long time, people that are coming the night before but not to the rehearsal dinner. And it’s easier on you, you can leave your stuff there and not worry about having to pack it up. What do you mean, discount for brides? You said you have room blocks, so that’s probably the best discount you’ll get. Since our whole wedding is at the hotel, they’re giving us a free room that night, all you can do is ask, and the worst thing they’ll say is no!
Post # 9
A one-way transfer is exactly that – a one-way trip. They’ll pick you up and drop you off (like getting a car to the airport). So, you’d be scheduling a few one-ways if you also make arrangements for others, rather than booking one car to shuttle everyone. Most car services have a minimum number of hours that you have to pay if you book other than a one-way.
As for the hotel, I agree with the others that you stay in a hotel the night before. It solves the issue of where to get ready for you and your BMs and also will be more relaxing than driving in from your place the day of the event. My Fiance and I live just under an hour away from our venue, but will be staying at an Inn very close for two nights (rehearsal dinner + wedding night) to save us the hassle of driving back and forth. While it would have been nice to use the cash to fill other budget holes, we agreed that it was worth it to save the stress, avoid traffic AND getting to spend more time with our guests, many of whom are staying at the same inn. It shouldn’t matter if your guests see you beforehand. if you’re worried, perhaps you can arrange with the hotel to take use a back entrance or side door and have your BM’s clear the way, secret-agent style?