(Closed) I need help…So frustrated, I feel like calling the whole thing off.

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
46645 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Ask her to priorize her list. Tell her that your venue can only accomodate 60 people and you want to ensure that the 30 most important people to her are invited.

Don’t let her make this your problem. Just be assertive and keep repeating that you are only having a 60 person wedding.

Post # 4
6015 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

I agree, get her or even your Fiance to prioritize the list.  Normally I think the person with the problem parent should be the one to handle the parent, but your Fiance is a pushover with her.  You should call her, maybe have a glass of wine… or two… and explain the number has been 60 that’s it.  Your space can’t handle more than that.  I would also say something like I would have loved for more than 30 on my side, but I had to cut my Aunt or first cousin so we could each have 30 people.   Ask for her help because cuts need to be made and you want to make sure the people that must be there are. 

Good Luck!


Post # 5
1177 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@julies1949:  +1

Just make clear that the number is non-negotiable. She’s probably used to bullying/badgering people into having things her way; it may take quite some time before she realizes it’s not going to work with you. But it’s good to set the precedent now.

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