Post # 1
Ladies, I am 10 months out from my wedding and I feel like I don’t have enough time to get it all together. Between work, church and my Masters thesis I just cannot see the time to make decisions about anything. I think I may be freaking out for no reason but I know I am not the only one who felt/feels this way. Any suggestions to cope?
Post # 3
I find it always helps me to make a to do list…plus it feel snice to get to check stuff off!
What is it you need to do? If it’s crafting projects etc, maybe it would be a good idea to map out “due dates” for everything? Like you’ll have all the centrepieces done in three months, invites in four, etc….
Post # 4
@sara_tiara: yes I think a checklist would be great! I suppose I need to find to prepare said checklist. Just pray that I will get it together without losing my mind.
Post # 5
@missbarbados: Your date is my idea wedding date. Yeah, we haven’t even decided on a date/venue/actual budget yet. Believe me, you’ll be fine! 🙂
Post # 6
@missbarbados: Yes, having a list is so helpful. I made one about a year out with EVERYTHING on it. I mean everything. It felt so good crossing things off and kept me on track.
Post # 7
@missbarbados: Are you able to take off a semester from school?
Post # 8
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
Don’t second guess yourself, you sound way too busy for this. I’d advise doing any wedding decisions whenever your “best” time of day is, do that you’re alert/can make a decision and stick with it.
And if you’re overwhelming yourself with DIYs, either line up help or don’t DIY.
Post # 9
@Brielle: oh how I’d love to! I am giving it more serious thought as the months go by though.
Post # 10
@rebwana: yes yes yes! i am trying to eliminate/delegate as much DIY as possible because I think I will lose it if I try to do it all.
Post # 11
- Wedding: July 2014 - Prague
I would schedule an hour or two every weekend (more or less, depending on your schedule) that you devote TOTALLY to planning. Along with a list, prioritized by month, you should be fine.
If it helps, my own wedding is in 7 months and I don’t even have a dress. All I have is venue, food, drink sorted out.
Post # 12
I pick a few things to do a week so I don’t get overwhelmed.
We got engaged Dec ’12, I did big chunk of planning right away – I had to because I KNEW i would not find the time during the summer [very active job, 12+ hours a day/6 days a week, and I live an hour from work]. I had to actually take an extra day off work to make a dress appointment!
Post # 13
@missbarbados: make a to do list of what you want to accomplish. i planned my wedding in 8 months. the first 2 months were the busiest booking the location and vendors. then i didn’t do much until the last 2 months.
you will be fine. staying organized and relaxed is the key to getting it all done.
Post # 14
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
@missbarbados: Oh, whatever you do, don’t take a break from your master’s! Literally everyone I know who’s done that never went back!
I second the suggestion to make a monster list. You’ll feel a lot better having everything written down instead of floating around in your head. Wedding Wire has a great month by month list (although dont get overwhelmed, they include a lot of unnecessary stuff so just exclude that from your list).
You can do it! Enlist your Fi / family / friends to help – people generally WANT to help, they just need to be asked.
Post # 15
Folks like you are the reason that wedding planners exist! It’s an extra expenditure, yes, but the amount of work you have to do will drop TREMENDOUSLY if you can hire someone to do the research, budgeting, and scheduling for you. Please consider it.
If hiring help is absolutely out of the question, they my advice is similar to everyone else’s.
You need a checklist, but you also need to remember that no one gets extra credit for finishing their wedding planning early. If your checklist says that you have six jobs to do in January, you have six jobs to do. Period. Don’t even think about what’s down the road. You’ll get to it when you get to it, but you’ve got to take it one baby step at a time.
If you’re looking for a good 12-month planning checklist, I recommend this one by Russell & Hazel: