Post # 1
So I have been feeling pretty yuck about myself for a while… my clothes never fit the way I want them to, I haven’t really been taking care of myself, self loathing, etc.
I know HOW to get myself back on track, get healthy, etc. I just don’t have the motivation to do it NOW. I honestly thought that getting engaged would be the motivation I needed, but it seems that in my mind I still have over a year to get myself where I want to be. I was a psych major and work in the field. I wouldn’t go as far as to say that I’m depressed because this isn’t something that keeps me from living my life day to day, but it is something that REALLY bothers me.
I have also noticed some things are seriously detereorating because of this… my sex life is practically gone and Fiance is none too pleased about it, I have horrific spider veins and varicose veins that I am super self conscious about (I’m 24…), and I bruise SUPER easily lately.
I feel like I am spinning my wheels here…
Post # 3
Maybe you should get your iron tested, you might be slightly anemic and that’s why you’re feeling depressed and brusing easily. Do you take a multivitamin? It sounds like your nutrition is a bit out of whack, which really could be making your feelings out of whack with it.
Post # 4
Sparkpeople.com is free and full of motivation. Remind yourself that feeling good requires you to work on it. Even if you can just get into the gym for 20 minutes today- that 20 minutes more than you would have done otherwise- and as your feel better- go for longer. Good luck!
Post # 5
I have huge problems with motivation. So what I do is this, I set myself a smaller goal (like, lose X by next month” and have a treat system. So if I achieve the goal I can have that day out shopping or buy that thing for the house or spend a day with a trashy novel in the sun. I find if I think of things in terms of more than one month then I always think I have more time than I actually have.
Good luck! I’m rooting for you!
Post # 6
Amen to you. My continual problem.
But you know what? It’s become less than a year to my wedding frightneningly fast!
So I’ve started swimming 5 days a week, and am going to, weather permitting, fit in a 4 mile walk sat and sun. I have decided to not shop hungry or premenstrual. (Trolley full of cake- check!)
I have noticed an unworn top bought for Christmas fits a wee bit better than it used to.
I’m definitely shrinking slower than I’d like, but I’ve been doing this dieting nonsense on and off since I hit 20 – 13 years go Saturday – and I want to do it right this time.
def get your iron levels etc checked. Also, re the sex drive, if you’re on the pill that could be part of the problem. Big thread on the boards a couple weeks back, lots of women delighted how frisky they got once off the pill. Just sayin…!
Best of luck!
Post # 7
You’re a Psych major? Then you do know a thing or two about motivation… If your primary source of motivation is external (i.e. getting fit for your wedding) instead of internal (i.e. having a good health, feeling good about yourself, etc), you will have a hard time starting; and an even harder time keeping up the good work after you event…
It bothers you, but it doesn’t bother you enough that you’re willing to do something about it now. I would address that question: why doesn’t it bother you enough, even though you’re unhappy with yourself? What level of not feeling good will you have to attain before something triggers you to take action?
The more you wait, the harder it will be. Also, it doesn’t have to be a huge thing, small actions on a regular basis will take you a long way and it won’t seem as difficult.
Post # 8
I find listening to podcasts give me motivation. I will listen on the way to/from work. It really gets me excited. It took a while to get my fiance to work out with me; we figured out if we work out in the morning before work we’ll both work out which motivates us. Before I had to work out right after work b/c I knew that if I went home or waited till later when Fiance was home that I wouldn’t go. Once I get my workout clothes on and get to the gym I’ll want to work out; sometimes the hardest thing is getting there. I drag myself there somedays. So to sum up, I get motivated by 1) podcasts, 2) working out with Fiance, and 3) dragging myself against my will b/c once I’m there I will start pumping the iron *Arnold Voice*
Hope that helps! Best of luck!
Post # 9
Thanks ladies. I will def have to get my iron checked- I hadn’t thought of that but I did have trouble with low levels as a teen. The deflated sex drive could def be because of the pill AND not working out (double whammy there).
I want to motivate Fiance to workout with me. I think we’ve just both become couch potatoes and since we BOTH hate the gym… we always find a reason not to make it there.
Like Nike… I’m gonna try to JUST DO ITTT
Post # 10
Find something that you have fun doing.. I mean, if you both hate the gym, why go to the gym? There are plenty of physical activity that you can do together that you would actually enjoy – therefore increase your chances for success and lasting through time.
You could run, get into a sports team / league together, play tennis, ride your bike, etc…
It doesn’t have to be boring!