Post # 1
I am having a heck of a time figuring out how to handle our wedding party with our venue. We have a huge wedding party. That is impossible to change (though i wish it were smaller). I am only having my sisters, very very very close friends and nieces.
We have 8 Bridesmaids, 4 Jr. Bridesmaids, 4 Flower Girls, 6 Groomsmen, 1 Jr. Groomsment, 1 Ring Bearer.
I am not worried about who is walking with who… that should be simple enough to figure out. The promlem is that I do not want it to look RIDICULOUSLY lopsided up there. The way our venue is set up is that we have the aisle way down the middle and approx 4 chairs on each side. The chairs are up against the wall, so there is no aisle on the outside of the chairs. I was considering having my Junior Bridesmaids sit in chairs during the ceremony (which they would probably prefer) which would make it much more even. Then they could also be on baby patrol. The only problem is that I don’t know how they should go to their seats. Should they only walk part way up the aisle and immediately sit in the second row (so my parents are in the first row), or should I reserve the first row for my juniors so that they can make their way up to the very front. Then maybe once I get all the way to the front, they can make their way to their seats? I have no idea what to do about this.
It kind of sucks because I love them dearly, but I wish I would have just had the flower girls. That would be impossible because I can’t ask some of my nieces to be in the wedding and not the others. Needless to say, they have already been asked. It is just the format of them standing up there that is next on my list to tackle.
Any help would be greatly appreciated. I will post a picture of my venue so you can get an idea of what I am talking about.
–Note: Can’t get upload to work. I will try later 🙂
Post # 3
Let’s try this picture thing again…
Post # 4
I know it is long, but if you can help, I would REALLY REALLY appreciate it! 🙂
Post # 5
I would have the jr. bridesmaids, jr. groomsmen, flower girls, and ring bearer peel off straight to seats in the second row. This is what I did for my ring bearer and flower girl, who were both very young. They walked down the aisle and then went straight to sit with their mom.
Post # 6
I like chelseamorning’s suggestion. As for me, I would need a visual because I am having a hard time picturing it.
Post # 7
LOL chelseamorning, we are on the same wavelength!!
I’m having my Flower Girl and RBs go up first, then peel around to their parents in the audience. The RBs will be on the aisle seat so they can come up and give the "rings" (like I’d really let them hold the rings lol). But that way you can have your 6 and 6 and everyone else can still be included.
Post # 8
Well I don’t think that it matters if they stand up with you. But, if it bothers you that much I would have them walk all the way down and then stand at their seats at the first row. Honestly though you have to think if you want them to be left out from your ceremony pictures. The little ones will go sit with their parents so they will be all set. I have 5 girls and 3 guys on the other side, one of the guys is my 4 year old son. So we are going to be off balance to but, its not about being even its all about the most important people being there for the two of you. So I personally wouldn’t worry about anything other than what you really want and how you want your pictures to be visually. If they are just as important as your BM’s then they should be up their with you! I hope this helps a little!
Post # 9
In my brother’s wedding, we (bridesmaids) sat in the front row of chairs, we departed our escort at the front row and immediately went to the pews (it was in a church). You can have two bridesmaids walk together.
You don’t need to even have the groomsmen walk down the aisle, they can be standing at the alter already after already escorting family and friends to their seats.
Post # 10
I REALLY appreciate your responses. I am so glad to hear that a "peel off" has been done and that it worked 🙂 I think that that is what I will do. I still want them to feel included. I think that might just work. 🙂
If any of you are interested, I will try posting the picture again. Hopefully it works this time 🙂
THANK YOU AGAIN!!!!