(Closed) I need reassurance, help, anything, please.

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
2253 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Go to bed. Everything will work out I’m sure. Being this dedicated and involved as you are will show through to the admissions. One of the biggest things they look for is a drive and dedication which you clearly have. Right now, if you really want to be on top of your game, you need rest. Go to bed.


Post # 4
2598 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

First of all, it is out of your hands. Nothing you can do. You’ll deal with whatever the reality is when it comes. But worrying about it will do nothing. 

Second, I know two people who did not get into medical school the first time they applied. So they took a year off and applied again and got in. There’s no failure, just setbacks. Even if it were to happen, life will go on and you’ll be okay. 

Post # 6
9916 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

@OrchidsandCandles:  If you really cannot get yourself to calm down thinking about it, start planning your second option.  That’s how I calm myself down when something is out of my hands but I can’t stop thinking about it.  When I applied to graduate school, I was soooo nervous — I banked all my plans on one Ivy League school!!! (who does that with no back up??).  So, I started planning how I would continue on if I didn’t get in.  It calmed me down.


Good luck, too.  I’m sure everything will be fine!!  When do you find out?

Post # 7
9541 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

Things are going to be fine. You’re obviously working really hard to make this happen. Worrying doesn’t help anything and it probably actually hurts things since it’s probably stressing you out. So take a deep breath. Maybe a bath and a glass of wine? A hike? Whatever quites your mind. It’ll be fine. Just try not to stress. 

Post # 8
1456 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

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@peachacid:  I agree – even though my grad school choice has over 80% acceptance rate, I was still freaking out about getting in. I’m actually taking a year off so I can do what was originally my backup plan, because a break between undergrad and grad school sounded so nice.

I hate to put it this way too, but even if you don’t get in, it opens a new door for resume building, and the holy grail – “real world experience” while giving you time to focus more on testing and applying again next year.

Post # 9
2353 posts
Buzzing bee

Go to bed.

Take long breaths. Try to sleep. And remember that, even if you don’t sleep, being horizontal with your eyes closed can’t help but be more restorative than reading or being on WB at …wait, WHAT time is it there???

Go to bed. You’ve already done plenty to get ahead on this. 

And good luck with everything. But go easy on yourself, okay? You should trust yourself more.

Post # 10
307 posts
Helper bee

@OrchidsandCandles:  I’m not sure what applying to med school in the UK is like but if it is anything like in the States…you’re way ahead of me (writing papers, presenting at conferences, etc etc) when I applied to med school! It all worked out and I get to do what I love to do! 

Worrying only makes you feel negative about yourself – at the end of medical school, I realized that the only thing that stopped me from being a better doctor than the one I already was, was fear – not trusting in myself because I was scared. Letting that go was one of the most transformative lessons in becoming a physician.

Honestly, just love yourself, love what you do/do what you love and be real. They will see through it if you are just doing stuff just to get in.  SERIOUSLY, do NOT do anything you don’t want to do.

If you don’t get in, what will you do? Take a step back, take the opportunity to explore yourself and grow. Apply again. Don’t give up – there are many amazing doctors I who didn’t get in on the first try. That didn’t stop them and if you really want this, keep at it! It will pay off!

Hugs! From what I’ve read in your posts, I think you will do great! Best wishes!

Post # 12
5089 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

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@OrchidsandCandles:  Cognitive Behavioral Therapy is really really good for these kind of repetitive anxiety thoughts. It usually only takes a few sessions – I highly recommend finding someone who does this style of therapy. It can make such a big difference in your life!

Post # 14
995 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@OrchidsandCandles:  You need to learn how to let go a little–you cannot plan your life in advance—you will probably get in, but even if you don’t you will probably still be ok

You should make some time in your life to destress–yoga, meditation, etc. 


Read up on REBT–usually when we are experiencing copious amounts of stress it can be traced back to irrational beliefs about ourselves and others

It’s normal to stress out about these things, but this far in advance you’re going to burn yourself out before you get down to the wire–this is a marathon not a sprint!

Post # 15
3218 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

Try to take up running or exercising.  I went through all of this when I was waiting for PhD acceptance letters and some days I just needed to run myself until I was exhausted to get my mind off of all of the “what-ifs”!

Post # 16
634 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

nothing i have to say will sound as smart as you, lol… but i wish you well and i know everyone on wb will be here to listen and cheer you on! good luck!

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