Post # 1
Bees, I need you.
I am the first of all of my friends to get married recently (most of our married friends are far older) so I have no one to ask… I am having a hell of a time figuring out how to word RSVP cards.
Our guestlist is broken down into the following:
Single guest, no +1, invite will be addressed to guest only (To mr. smith)
Couples, invite will be addressed to both (to mr. and mrs. smith)
Single guest with a +1, invite will be addressed to guest and +1 (“to mr. smith and guest.)
How am I supposed to make an RSVP card for this?! The single guest is easy (attending or not attending) but how do I handle the couples and +1? I guess for the couples it could be “Both parties attending/ One guest attending” and for the +1 it could be “Attending with Guest/ Attending without guest”
wdjfha;djfgh;akjh We’re really trying to keep this as simple as possible, and we are doing a restaurant buyout so we have capacity for 100 no matter what, and we have way more people we’d love to invite so I want to be a specific as possible. I’m open to printing multiple types of RSVP cards. How did everyone handle this?!
Post # 3
Put a line that says
“We have resereved _______ seat for you
___ out of ____ guests will be attending”
Then hand write in the numbers in the first and third line, and let them fill in the second one!
Post # 4
As RSVP cards are usually cheaper the more you buy, just go with one type so you can get a quantity discount
Post # 5
Oooo that might be good!! Its *kind* of a weird situation because we’re not actually doing seats (its a cocktail party) but we do have capacity on the space, so we can’t be like “how many chicken and fish options do you need” ha. I’m excited to see other bees responses!
Post # 6
- Wedding: October 2013 - The Down Town Club, Philadelphia
Hmm. I think you are making this more complicated that it needs to be.
We have over 240 invited, some as much as 4 or 5 on an invite. This is what we did for our RSVP.
I think the only think you need to add would be
“We have reserved ___ seats in your name.”
And then you fill in the amount of people.
I don’t think you need to print out different RSVP cards.
Post # 7
No one should be invited as + guest, unless their name is actually Mr Guest or Guest Smith. Guests should be invited by name.
Post # 8
@andielovesj: what if we don’t know their name? Some of our friends date a new person monthly and we want them to be able to come.
Post # 9
@bkrocks13: I think it’s ok to add “and guest.” It’s not the best but you also want to make your friends feel welcome.
Post # 10
@bkrocks13: since your invites should be going out 6-8 weeks ahead of the event, you can ask your guest just before the date for their name. (Technically, the invite should be mailed directly to that person, as each guest should be treated equally, but I am flexible about that part).
Honestly, if 6 weeks before the event they nail down a name, invite them sans guest.
Post # 11
I think our invites will be going out more like 3 months in advance as we are not doing save-the-dates in a formal way (it will be an email.) I guess given the informal nature of our wedding, I am comfortable people someone bringing (one) unnamed guest as long as they RSVP as such. We frequently have dinner parties in excess of 20+ people and BBQs over 80 people, about 25% of whom we’ve never met before as our friends are always open to bring guests.
I guess my questions was less about the “and guest” and more about distinguishing the +1s versus the couples
Post # 12
We put in the # invited and their names.
Post # 13
We are doing the same thing (but shh.. we are saying no +1s only named guests. But there are 3 people (young widow, divorced after 2 months, and breakup after 8 years and her ex and his pregnant girlfriend are invited) that can bring whomever they want).
“The favor of your reply is requested by July 15, 2013 via post or at http://www...
— of — accept with pleasure
Please initial your meal choice (__ chicken, __salmon, __ vegetarian, __children’s)
__ of __ decline.”
We put names on the outside of the envelopes for all invited except for our few plus ones. The outter envelope for those with plus ones has just their name and then 2 for seats.
Maybe that will work?