(Closed) I need some advice…

posted 10 years ago in Destination Weddings
Post # 3
234 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I think you need to sit down with your mother and let her know that while you are thankful that she thinks this is something you should have, you don’t really want to have the expense.

Maybe you could send something out to the people you know are coming and let them know you would love to spend some time with them, and if they would like to join to for dinner, you would like that, and then include the place you plan on going and the average price of a meal.

If they are close family and friends and you never said anything to them about coming and they are doing this on their own, I don’t see anything wrong with this.

I think you could get some nice premaid invites and just print them out on your home computer and then be done with it.

Then when you hear back from people, let them know that they will need to make reservations, or call the place before hand and let them know how many people will be coming and see how hard it will be to take care of the whole party.

Good luck!

Post # 4
1238 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

Wow, how did this get so out of hand?  I think you obviously talked too much about it with people outside of the invite list (or your family members did).  I think you need to politely let them know that you are having a small private ceremony in Vegas to include immediate family only.  Then, after the ceremony you mail out a "We got married" announcement.  I have had several friends and a few family members who did this.  If they don’t want to change their travel plans, then that is on them.  You are under NO OBLIGATION to pay for anything for these people if you never mailed them an invitation.  It is very presumptuous of them.  Are they expecting an invitation in the mail?  IF so, maybe they will figure it out when they don’t get one!

Good luck!

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