- 4 years ago
- Wedding: dont know
I’m 22 and my boyfriend/fiance is 27 and that’s not really the problem. He’s making ring payments on the ring of my dreams. I’m graduating college in December and currently looking for a full time job in a pretty competitive field, while he works a decent but physically demanding job but is starting college this summer. My ring should be paid in august but he hasn’t technically asked me yet. My parents are old fashioned protestants so they want him to ask permission and all that. My question is when should he do that? Im kind of afraid of scaring my parents and making them panic. I look like I’m younger than my 15 year old brother so i think they still see me as a child sometimes. We wont be getting married until I have a full time job so I can move in with him while we are engaged. I will not live with him without being engaged. My mom also has a bizarre check list of this “I should do before settling” and most of the things on the list are things she should have done before marrying young that have not value or interest to me. I understand completely where she is coming from the the situations are also totally different. My boyfriend/fiance and I had problems last year and when i talked to her about how much I loved him she was just worried that we were growing up in different places and maybe needed to break up and see what’s out there. she was worried we would hold on together to post pone the inevitable like her and her first husband (that was like 20 years before I was even born.) Well that was a year ago and my relationship has become so much better and stronger than ever and I really want it to progress to the next level so after I graduate we can work on planning the wedding and our futures together but i just don’t know how to tell her. I know my parents will probably freak out at first because they don’t see what I see in him, they think he’s boring or something, and I’m the oldest child and only daughter and I am young. We werent planning on getting married until 2015 or 2016 depending on our financial situation anyway so I don’t know why she acts like i’m in a rush. I Just need some help with how to tell her or what to tell her. Should he do all the talking by asking my parents by himself or should we both talk to them or should I do all the talking? This is new to me I don’t really know how weddings work we live far away from family and have only ever been to one wedding before.