(Closed) I need some advice….

posted 7 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
624 posts
Busy bee

Maybe state that since this is your minimoom that you already have plans with your husband? 

Post # 4
429 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

i wouldn’t take any offense if i was the bride in that situation. and if she’s a dear friend, she will most certainly understand. just be honest. 🙂

Post # 5
172 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I don’t think it looks immature.  I agree with the others, just thank her, decline, and tell her you look forward to the wedding.

Post # 6
837 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

First, I wouldn’t decline until you talk to your husband.  I know you said attending the wedding would be a big step for him, but I would just tell him about the invite and get his input.  If you both still want to decline, say thank you but you husband has planned a romantic evening together since you are on your honeymoon.  Good luck!

Post # 7
187 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I agree with all those above–make some great dinner plans/explore SF. Plus it will be a perfect time for you and your husband to connect and spend time alone before going into what could be awkward (although it seems like it won’t). Have fun!!

Post # 8
174 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Just let her know that this is your mini honeymoon and you all have plans to explore the city and enjoy a romantic dinner, but you can not wait to see her at the wedding…

Who knows… maybe she is also hoping to avoid this akward sitaution and was only inviting for etiquette? I am sure there will be no hurt feelings.

Post # 10
3762 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I think if you tell her the truth that you are making her wedding a stop on your mini-moon and you want to spend as much time as a couple as you can then she will understand.

I think there is a lot of inviting out of courtesy with weddings.  I’m sure in the end she would have loved to see you at the rehearsal but its also one less dinner for them to pay for.

Post # 11
30 posts
  • Wedding: August 2011

Yeah I agree, you will be attending the wedding and that is the important part!  Say you have other plans whilst there and you are sorry you cannot attend the meal but I wouldnt tell her the real reason.  A white lie is ok when there is a good reason behind it. Don’t worry she should be fine with that, I wouldnt be offended if it was me.

Post # 12
383 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Not immature at all!  I would definitely politely decline, and use your minimoon as an “out” (that is, if you feel you have to explain it at all).  She won’t think twice about it, even if she’s disappointed you won’t be there.  That’s what I’d do, not only because it may make your hubby slightly uncomfortable, but also because I’ll bet you guys want some alone time on your minimoon!

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