Post # 1
So I’ve started making my programs and I’ve ran into quite a dilemma..
3 years ago, my father passed away. It wasn’t sudden, we all saw it coming and everyone expected it. As much as it hurts, I’m doing okay. It sucks he’s not going to walk me down the aisle, but it was something I accepted as a child. My mother is not doing so well. She’s never moved on and probably won’t. She talks about him constantly and it usually upsets her. With that being said, I couldn’t decide if I wanted to include a Memorial part in my programs or not. I hate for anyone to think I’m not including him, but I didn’t want to upset my mother when she opened it and saw that.. which in turn would get me upset. I also specifically didn’t include our parents name in the program so my mother wouldn’t see the words “and the late..”
So here’s my problem.. if I decide to include something about my father, I must also include something about my grandpa and uncle, both of which passed away this past September. I’m afraid it’s too soon for my grandma and aunt to see such a thing when they open my program. I’m scared it will upset them, especially being at a wedding where it’s love everywhere. Will I look worse to exclude them all to save everyones emotions or what? I’m baffled by this. I cannot decide what to do!!
Post # 3
My FH’s father passed away and they were very close, as was the whole family. I talked to FH about this and asked if he wanted to do something to memorialize his dad on our day, FH said no. He didn’t want to bring up sad memories for the family on our happy day. The one thing he is doing is wearing a locket on the inside of his lapel, only where he will know it is and close to his heart.
Post # 4
We ran into the same dilemma.
We opted to have our friend who was marrying us say a short piece about my father and my husband’s maternal grandmother. Rather than put it into the program.
Post # 5
@tksjewelry: That’s a great idea about the locket! I may look into that. I hate to leave my dad out of the day, but I also don’t want to bring up any sad moments in such a happy day..
Post # 6
I think the locket idea -pinned to inside of gown or in your bouquet would be lovely. 🙂
Post # 7
If you do decide to put anything in the programs, I would let your relatives know before had, so that way it isn’t a shock the day of.
And I love the idea of a rememberance locket
Post # 8
I would let their close survivors know before hand if you decide to put something in the program. I think they would appreciate it that their loved one is remembered. Whether or not you put it into the program, I’m sure they will be thinking of them and if they are in the program, it’s kind of like they’re more present. Best of luck!