Post # 1
Soo, I made a previous post and most of you said i should skip las vegas because half of my bridesmaids wouldn’t be into it, so now im at square one!
I’m flexible, I like wild crazy nights as well as pub nights which i suppose could get pretty roudy depending on how many car bombs you have hehe:) Buut, my older sister is my maid of honor, and my brothers sister is a bridesmaid and after asking them, I see that they’re really uncomfortable with the idea of anything involving a club or that kind of thing. Actually my bridesmaids so far are making it hard for me to think of what we could do for a bachelorette party since they’re so diverse, i would love some ideas! I live in Seattle WA.
Lemme break it down:
Maid of honor: 37 with two kids and has never even been to a bar in her life and would definitely not go to a club with me, i asked
Bridesmaid 1: LOVES clubs, thinks shes really fancy, loves doing fancy things and wearing little cocktail dresses
Bridesmaid 2: My brothers gf, a hippie, who sounded really uncomfortable at the idea of clubs or vegas
Bridesmaid 3: My fiance’s 20 year old sister who i actually just pretend to like for the sake of keeping peace in the family cuz shes crazy, but im sure would love going to a club, she’ll be 21 by then, she’s first cousins with bridesmaid 1.
Me: perfectly happy being dragged to a club, or doing hippie stuff, im flexible, just afraid of getting in a lame situation. Bachelorette partys should be unusually eventful, right?
So what can we do to please everyone? some kind of compromise? Thanks! 🙂
Post # 3
I don’t have any ideas, but I feel like you should do something that YOU want to do and everybody else can just suck it up! It’s your day, you should have fun doing what you want!
I’ve been to a few where they have different parts, and people just go to what they want/can go to. One started off with pottery painting and then dinner, and then they went to the clubs and stayed at a hotel. I’m uncomfortable at clubs and can’t stay up late due to migraines, so I went to the earlier part and some people who couldn’t make it that early or didn’t want to pay for the pottery painting met up later with the bride.
Post # 4
I totally agree with artbee. To a certain extent, do what makes you happy. I like the idea of piecing it up a bit. For my friend’s bachelorette, we’re going to go to an arcade for the first part of the night, then she’ll open any gifts at my FI’s apartment and then we’re going to the bars. Her Maid/Matron of Honor will likely only stay for the first half, but the rest of us will be there the whole time. Have fun with it, and hopefully more of your BMs will stay :).
Post # 5
Well, I just had my bachlorette party last night so I can give you a few ideas.
A lot of the girls aren’ the cluber type so instead we did a pole dancing class ..it was actually a really good work out, a lot of fun, private with our group so you didn’t feel embarassed in front of anyone, and they “encouraged” you to bring booze in to loosen you up a bit.
We did a scavanger hunt to keep us busy in between bars, and then we ended up at a bar where we played batchlorette type games (ring toss on the penis ect).
It ended up being a lot of fun.
Post # 6
Thanks guys! I like the idea of scheduling at least a few different events during the night and giving everyone the itinerary in a facebook invite maybe (im inviting lots of pple not just bridesmaids, but i just care about their opinion the most) and then pple can choose what parts they want to go to. There’s a thing in my town called Theatre Zinanni, like a dinner theatre similar to cirque du solei that might be cool for everyone, yea? Except tickets are like $100 each so hopefully i wouldnt be mean for expecting them to shell out $$$. Also i wonder if male strip clubs are cool, ive never been to a strip club lolz:)
Post # 7
I’ve been to a male strip club. If your BMs aren’t cool with a club, I don’t think they’ll be cool with a male strip club. Unlike female strip clubs, its not just men dancing on stage. It’s men dancing, or rather grinding, on the women in the crowd. It’s pretty extreme.
For my cousin’s bach party, we took a wine tour. It included a limo to and from 3 vineyards, and lunch. At each vineyard we each got a glass of 3-5 wines and a tour of the facilities. The last vineyard had live music. We also bought bottles of wine at the vineyards and drank them in the limo.
After that we went back home and had a “toy party”. Kinda like a tupperware party, but with adult toys.
For my sisters bach, I wanted to do boudior shoot. My sister’s photographer does bach party shoots where she rents out a NYC hotel room and each girl gets a half hour shoot and a “little black book” of her photos. Again, if your BMs don’t like clubs, they may not dig this idea.
And finally, for my best friends bach, we went to Medieval Times. Which if you don’t know about, you should find out about.
Post # 8
For my BFF’s wedding were doing a photoshoot! I think it’ll be so fun plus we can give her the pictures for a wedding present!We are doing a ‘bachelor’ party theme where we dress up in fedora hats, suspenders and drink huge pints of beer, ‘smoke’ cigars and play poker!
Post # 9
I suggest a pub crawl with a fun theme. Steering clear of “clubs” and just going to fun, trendy bars in your area.
We did Pub Golf for my sis where everyone dressed up in cute golf gear(think British not Tiger Woods) and had a golf card with the bars/holes on them. We had a specific cocktail at each bar and the number of sips=the number of strokes. Had a prize for the winner. We took a trolley around to all the places.
It was a cute way to have a theme that involved dressing up without wearing a penis crown or a hot pink boa. 🙂
Post # 10
Meet for a late supper/apps.
Then go bowling.
Those who love to drink, can, and those who don’t, really don’t have to. Find an entertaining theme, dress it up to the nines, and bowl for a couple hours. Lots of fun, regardless of skill level, and great way to socialize.
Then, if you want to, the partiers can go out to a club/bar, and those that aren’t comfortable with it, can go home.
But really, you should leave planning your party up to your BMs- this isn’t really something you should plan for yourself, it should be planned in your honour.
Post # 11
I’ve only been to one bachelorette party. It was when I was my sister’s Maid/Matron of Honor, and it was more of a combination bachelorette party/bridal shower. We all wore flowers in our hair, and we went to a mall and helped my sister pick out lingerie and makeup. We each bought her a couple items–taking plenty of candid pictures along the way, of course. Then we got some Starbucks, and we went over to the MOG’s house for dinner and a movie. It was low-key and affordable, but still tons of fun.
Post # 13
My bachelorette party just exudes awesome (atleast for me!). We’re going to start out doing some wine tasting at a local winery, then move onto a dinner & a comedy show type of thing and later conclude our evening at a gay bar for karaoke night and some drinks. My Maid/Matron of Honor mentioned getting a limo but I think that’s still up in the air.
I’m like your bridesmaids, I HATE clubs and crowded bars. I have no problem going to a neighborhood bar for a beer or two but the ones in the “party district” where they reach maximum capacity is just not my scene.
Post # 14
Sounds like you really want to go out clubbing….what about just going out to a nice dinner, and then doing something a little more your taste afterwards?
Post # 15
I agree with what Elarissa said about the pole dancing. My sister(my MOH) and I went to a class just because and we loved it!! we are definetly having that as one part of my bachelorette party. Since you live in the city it should be easy to find a place, you should do the private party so people dont feel too selfconscious. It is defintely worth checking out!