(Closed) I need some opinions…. is it wrong for me to be upset about this?

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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3572 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

No, you’re not wrong.  She sounds like an unbelievable jackass.  You are lucky your Fiance stands up to her!

Post # 4
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693 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

It’s your wedding, not hers. Your parents are paying for it..tell her to focus on the Rehearsal Dinner. Why does she feel that her best friend needs to be involved? That’s odd. Keep the details to yourself, and she can’t find fault with anything.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I would be so mad at her!  We are paying for own on and his mother will likely not be involved in any wedding planning.  It’s mostly been Fiance, me and my mom because she knows the venue so well.

I’m glad your Fiance stood up to her.

Post # 6
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

Okay, for future reference – too many opinions usually ends in a clusterf*ck misunderstanding. Like this. If she can’t handle the responsibility of being the “mature adult” while you all plan your wedding, then she doesn’t get that option. [Sorry, had this same issue with a family member that didn’t contribute financially and want to tell her to STFU vicariously through you! haha]

Also, I wouldn’t consult her or even let her in on things. She doesn’t need to know the menu if she’s going to be a brat about it and basically talk behind your back about it, it’s none of her business about the suits, she isn’t wearing one. ESPECIALLY since she’s being all secretive about the part she is actually involved in with the Rehearsal Dinner, though. Lame. For the next month and 20 days Future Mother-In-Law would be on lockdown from me. I’d be using the “need to know” method. She’d know where to be and when.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I don’t think you’re wrong. My question is what is the root of this. I wonder if she has any daughters? Maybe that’s why she’s butting in? Or she could just be that way. You are right about the menu. Assign your Fiance the task of getting the Rehearsal Dinner details. I agree with other poster about putting her on a need to know basis. 

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

A good Taylor can take the smallest suit they make and cut it to fit the 16 year old. It will be an extra expense but is doable. Usually a store Taylor won’t do those major adjustments.

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