- 6 years ago
- Wedding: October 2012
I need your opinion.
Do I have a right to be really aggravated and upset?
Fiance and I are getting married. I have been planning this shindig for a while now. It is coming up soon. My family has decided to pay for the wedding. Whatever we go over in budget, we have to pay for. I am completely happy with that. I would have been happy with just a congrats, but they wanted to pay for it. Well, long story short, we had to choose a certain menu for our budget. I am happy with our decision, I think it is going to be good food. We originally wanted pasta, but because I decided to invite more people, we decided to go with beef and chicken chili and a potato bar. Well, I am good friends with my Future Mother-In-Law. She told me a week ago that she has been asking around her friends, coworkers, and people coming to the wedding and all of them claim that chili and a potato bar is a bad idea for a wedding that it doesnt go good with wine and beer and her mother and best friend arent planning on eating the food at the wedding. She said that she would like to pay the difference if we wanted her to for us to have pasta instead. Well, I brought it up to my mom and she got PISSED. Which I understand that it wasnt her place to do that. I am not mad at her for offering to pay for the food, I am more aggravated that she said that her mother and best friend and others coming from her side are close with me said they hate the idea and arent planning on eating at our wedding ( if you dont like the food that is fine, but at least keep it to yourself). Well needless to say, we arent changing the menu, bc I would rather my Future Mother-In-Law hate the food than have my parents remember that I didnt choose the food they helped me pick out for the budget they had for me.
also Future Mother-In-Law offered to stuff the envelopes. I decided that we were only going to put stamps on the elderlys envelopes and let the others who knew how to work on a computer have the option of emailing or mailing us. I did this to save some money. Well… Future Mother-In-Law decided on her own…. to put stamps on all of her side and not on mine. THAT IS NOT WHAT WAS DECIDED! she went behind what I said and did her own thing.
two days later…. Fiance decides to have a chat with his mom to tell her that we have decided to stay with the menu we chose and that basically she needs to back off a little bit bc it is stressing me out and I am trying to make everyone else happy for OUR WEDDING… Future Mother-In-Law gets PISSED at him… basically pouts for two days bc he told her to chill out and let us handle it.
Long story short, the suits we chose are out of stock and we have to pick more out. So Fiance and I go BY OURSELF BC WE ARE ADULTS to pick the suits out. The first time we went to pick his mother, father, brother, moms best friend and moms best friends husband came and allllllllllll had an opinion for the suits. They also started picking out ties. Dont get me wrong I am not a mean person and I love all of them, but what they were choosing and comparing was not what Fiance or I wanted.
So just Fiance and I went the second time found a suit and a tie that we both loved and chose it. The only downfall that we found out about was that the cousin who is one of the groomsmen is too small for the suit to be altered. He is 16. So basically the only options we have are: have the cousin not in the wedding, let the suit be big on the cousin, or let the cousin try and find a suit that is close in color in his size.
Future Mother-In-Law is pissed again. She wants us to go and change the suit for the cousin. I am totally against that bc THIS IS NOT ABOUT THE COUSIN THIS IS ABOUT US… I want the cousin in the wedding… and I am ok if his suit is a little bit off on color. but I dont think we should change a major part for Fiance bc of this…. does that make me a B****?
I have tried to please every single person involved in this wedding, but when the suit salesmen tells me ” This is your wedding, you guys need to pick something that makes you happy” I think I need to do that.
The last thing that has just put me over the top was Fiance hasnt had to deal with anything with this wedding… no stress what so ever. I have tried to keep his stress down and handle all of it obvi with his opinion and what we both want. He calls his dad and his dad says ” I am on your side, I understand you are really stressed about this whole wedding thing.” Holy crap, are you kidding me? this is the first thing that he has stressed out about at all! I am just personally aggravated about that.
Future Mother-In-Law is also planning the rehearsal dinner and won’t tell us a single detail about it. I don’t care if she plans it she is paying for it, but I would like to know what the hell is going on BC IT IS OUR WEDDING NOT HERS.
I do love her, but I am so aggravated about this whole thing… should I be?
Ugh, so sorry long. I just need to vent.