(Closed) I need some perspective…

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
2106 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Not all parents are involved in the planning process and quite a few who are drive the bride and groom nuts haha.  So on that front, no one fro your family is obligated. 

As for your bridal shower, you don’t throw it, so you don’t pick the location, etc, although most maid of honors comply with the bride’s wishes.  Why isn’t your Maid/Matron of Honor planning your shower?  It sounds like the other bridesmaids got too involved too early and that got everything all flubbed up. 

You should never feel like you’re “leaning” too much on your husband-to-be.  He’s going to be standing up there next to you for a reason. 

If you feel like you’re missing out on things, invite 1-2 people to do things with you.  You sound especially down that no one is going to your fittings– well, invite some people to go with you.  Most people outside of the wedding world don’t understand how important things like that can be to brides.  Go down the list of people you love starting with family, Maid/Matron of Honor, and bridesmaids, and involve other people. 

Good luck!

Post # 4
662 posts
Busy bee

I vote you call up a couple of your friends (bridal party or not) and have them come over for margaritas tonight.  You might not have the tea party that you want but that shouldn’t stop you from enjoying your evening.  Don’t succumb to the pity party you want to throw for yourself.


I wish you the best of luck.  I couldn’t imagine how awful it would be to lose my mom while trying to plan my wedding.  Wedding planning is so mom centric.  My heart goes out to you.


The best advice I could give you is to just keep in the front of your mind that all your wedding related problems are about to end because the time for you to marry your amazing man is soon.  Invite a few friends over for cocktails or wine and try to forget that you have so many wedding related issues right now.  The wedding will be amazing and you’ll marry the guy who lets you lean on him when you need to and loves you regardless. 


Good luck!

Post # 5
165 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

First, I am sorry about your mom, I cannot imagine what you are going through but i’m sending good thoughts your way.

As far as sitting home alone, I think you should treat yourself to a nice spa day and get a massage/facial/mani/pedi… That way youre out and doing something for you instead of being stuck at home thinking about the negatives.

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