- 6 years ago
- Wedding: June 2012
I can honestly say at this point that I would appreciate any advice that anyone might offer.
Today, it is two weeks until our wedding. We’ve been engaged for almost 2 years, but our planning has been a bit upset by my mom’s death 16 months ago. So things are an almost constant emotional see-saw as far as I am concerned, for a start. Add to that, that my dad is not all that interested in being involved with the planning (probably in the interests of emotional self-preservation) and that the mother-in-law and I don’t see eye2eye at all.
Planning has therefore fallen to myself and my fiance, and I think we’ve covered most of the basics; he has also been my support pillar throughout the process. Long and the short of it, is that I accepted a job, which interfered tremoendously with the planning, and I asked bridesmides to help out, as I would need to spend weekends away from home. One thing i had been depending on them to organize was my kitchen tea/bridal shower, as it would have needed quite a bit of coordinating with dates to get it done. I had my eye on a specific tea shop close to home that fitted my idea of what I would have liked, and suggested perhaps having it there, as it would mean that I would not need to drive too far (my job entailed sales repping, and I was on the road for 10-12 hours a day).
And what infighting it caused! I put a stop to it when it became clear that nothing would be resolved, and quite forcefully declared that, if it is only going to cause fights, I would rather not have anything at all.
I must mention that I do feel very disappointed and betrayed. I have since been doing the bride things on my own, dress fitting, spa booking, etc, not really things the groom can help with, but I also feel that sometimes I might be leaning on him too much.
So, the real nitty-gritty of the post: tonight is the groom-to-be’s bachelor party (which I had to nudge his brother to organize), and I am home alone, and feeling down to the point of tears. I do feel I am missing out, but there is not much I think I can do about it. Am I justified in having a pity party, or is it all my fault?