(Closed) I need some serious advice

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@MotoGP69:  Are you totally against having uneven numbers?  I’m not sure how it would look with a 3 person difference though.  You could always just have your sons stand on your side and have his daughter stand on his side to mix it up a bit.  We have uneven sides, but only by 1.

Post # 4
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5479 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

@MotoGP69:  I’d say just have the uneven sides, or have your sons escort you down the aisle… or even have his kids stand up with him on his side, and yours on your side.  There’s no right or wrong way to do it 🙂

Also, as far as asking friends/other relatives… I’d wait until about 9ish months out from the wedding- it will help cut down on any potential drama, as people and relationships change, and it seems weddings tend to bring out the crazy in everyone!

Post # 5
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

Why do you need 7 on each side? And why do the boys have to stand on the grooms side while the girls stand on the brides side? I think you need to break out of what you think you are “supposed” to do.

For what it’s worth, my sister-in-law and my son stood on my side. My husband’s best friend stood on his side. So we were uneven and gender neutral. It wasn’t a big deal.

Post # 6
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257 posts
Helper bee

I assume these are grown children? If they are young, they could be junior groomsmen or ringbearers. If they are older, they could be ushers, but that would still concern me that FI’s children are attendants and yours are not.

 

Honestly, I would just let there be 7 and 4. I see no problem with that–everyone will understand why!

OH I also like the idea of having your children on your side and his on his side!!

Post # 7
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1589 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I’m a huge advocate for only having people who are really important to you, even if it’s uneven.

Post # 8
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1177 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Could they do something else, like…

Ushers?

Readings?

Guest book duty?

Post # 9
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2390 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

These are people, not photo props.  Who cares about the numbers?

Post # 10
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381 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I had 8 bridesmaids to his 5 groomsmen (not including junior bridesmaids and junior groomsmen) my son was the ring bearer also. I paired 5 girls and 5 boys then I had my 3 best friends arm in arm walk down the isle together and it worked out amazingly! They also came into the reception together and ripped it up!!!! 

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Eh, I wouldn’t be worried about the even numbers.  And I actually like that his daughter is standing with you and your sons are with him.  It’s showing the blended families, which I think is pretty cool.

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

@MotoGP69:  We definitely skipped the wedding party dance!  It’s awkward and just wasn’t something our wedding party would have been interested in at all.  To avoid having to pair people up for the processional/recessional, could you have all the guys standing at the alter prior to the bridal party and bride entrance?  They can walk down in pairs or one at a time.

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