Post # 1
Well the last post I made was about feeling numb and upset that I wasn’t ready to date again. That was 3 months ago about. Well since then, I started talking to a guy friend I have known for the last 2 years. We talked from April to July as friends…(a little more actually but I was not ready for any relationship yet)
Well in the beginning of August, I started feeling more than friends and he said he was too. He lived 3 hours away so it was going to be long distance. However, he was moving within 30 minutes of me in just a few months so it wouldn’t be long distance for very long at all. So we started dating, saw each other 2 times in August. All was good. Fast forward to today. He texts and says he isn’t happy anymore and he can’t be with me. He hasn’t even seen me in a month. I don’t get it. He has been moving closer to me the last couple days and will be fully moved in this weekend. (Moving was not related to our relationship.) So what I really wonder, is how can you say all these nice and sweet things to someone, and have all these hopes, but not even give it much of a chance? My last bf broke up with me after 5 months because he lost feelings…The same with my current ex…Now I definitely feel like it is something I am doing wrong… 🙁 UGH!
Post # 3
I am sorry you are feeling bad. My personal opinion is before you move on to another relationship it is important you seek counseling because there is a reason why you are picking the same man over and over. There is a reason that you are not aware of and until you find out what it is unfortunately you will pick the same type. I am speaking from experience because with me it was issues with my father that caused me to pick men just like him. It took me years to determine that it was unresolve feelings for my father. I decided to talk to my father and we spoke to every weekend for a year and counseling twice a week I got the closure I needed. Once I worked on myself, I chose a different man and I am glad I did because I know my worth without a man but at the time I didnt feel worthy. I hope this helps…
Post # 4
@niasg1: This seems like pretty solid advice – maybe you’re picking the same type of man that is a recipe for failure??
It’s probably not something you’re doing, although I have no idea what’s going on in the relationships.
If this guy was ever your friend, why don’t you just ask him? Tell him like this – I know that you said you have lost feelings for me and I don’t want you to think that I am trying to get back together, but I just want to understand what’s going on because you and my ex said the same thing. Please be honest with me and tell me if it’s something I’m doing that’s wrong – no hard feelings, I will appreciate your honesty even if it’s something you think will be hurtful.