- 5 years ago
- Wedding: September 2013
So I really could use a mothers advice right now, but sadly that is not an option. I have been dealing with this issue for the past few weeks and I can’t do it alone anymore. Luckily, there is a wedding site where fellow brides can help me out!
My fiancé got a job as a game warden after two years of trying. About 300 people apply each year and only 8 get in. He went to college hoping to land a game warden job when he got out.
Now, he is in police academy and tells me that he wants out. He is only a month and a half in. They have given him SO much free stuff, a computer, a gun safe, guns, bullet proof vests, gun belts, and lots of other things. If he quits now, he will have to pay more than what he made to the state for the psychological tests and the academy. Not really an issue, I can afford it.
I just don’t understand. He has always wanted to do this and now he is saying he is afraid it is too dangerous, he doesn’t want to work the long crazy hours, and he just wants to be with me and our future family. I love him to death and will whether he quits or not but I just don’t get it. Right now, in his academy, he is going through what police officers do. So it doesn’t even apply really. Towards the end of the academy, it will be more of the things he will be doing on a daily basis. Then, he will go through three months of “job shadowing,” where he will work with game wardens in different areas of the state. I feel like he should at least wait until the end of the year before he makes his decision.
If he does wait that long, we will owe the state $80,000 for wasting their time. So at that point, I would hope that he could do two more years and transfer out so we don’t have to pay anything. I just don’t see how he could want this for a lifetime and now that he has it, want to throw it all away. The division of wildlife is a small enough community where he would probably never be able to get another job working there if he does quit this one. He will do whatever I tell him to do but I don’t want to force him to do anything. I would die if I told him to stick with it and something did happen. It is law enforcement so there are dangers. I am just so mentally exhausted from all of this. I don’t want him to know how disappointed I would be. One of the best parts about him is that he inspires so many people to follow their dreams.