Post # 1
A week before my wedding and tonight has been horrible.
I’ve been relatively calm this entire wedding process.
But I feel like everyone is doing everything in their power to make me miserable.
My parents have been making mayhem on every turn and WE (FI and I) are the ones paying for the wedding. They have hurt me and offended me in every single way they can, and after the wedding I have no interest in talking to them.
Tonight, my BMs hurt my feelings because when they asked how we were getting between ceremony and reception and I said we were carpooling they made it into a big deal, suggested we rent a limo, and that us driving was impossible in our dresses. It turned into a fight, Future Sister-In-Law called my Future Mother-In-Law and said she was crying at work because “I hurt her feelings” by saying to her that fitting four people in a car is not that big deal.
I feel like I’ve been stepping on egg shells with her all along, and as a result of her phone call (to Future Mother-In-Law and NOT me) Future Mother-In-Law and Future Father-In-Law asked to talk to Fiance and I about it. We got reamed, told to stop causing drama, and to be more flexible. I’m frustrated because I’m sick of every.single.suggestion I’ve had for ANYTHING with the BMs have had a problem with.
I’m trying SO hard to keep my sanity. I want nothing but peace. And have been nothing (IMHO) but nice and sweet to them. I just want everyone to realize that it’s Fiance and MY’s day. I’m sick of feeling like my feelings don’t matter. That what I want (which has been nothing more than to spend the day with MY girls on OUR day and to celebrate the biggest moment of our lives. But apparently no one cares, and I feel like I’m being trampled on in every single way.
Post # 3
OMG I would be demoting to BMs to guests!
Post # 4
Ugh, so sorry you’re going through this. This is probably the toughest week for everyone, emotions are running high and I’m sure that’s affecting everyone involved. As long as you have your Fiance by your side, supporting you, do you best to relax and let all the negativity roll of your back. In a week you wil be married! Try to focus on that. You WILL get through this, and everything will be great. Good luck!!
Post # 5
I’m so sorry that this is happening to you.
For the record, my best friend just got married this past October, and we carpooled between the hotel and the ceremony (ceremony and reception were in the same place) and it worked just fine. It was a tight squeeze for her dress, but that is the same thing that will happen in any vehicle even a limo.
I hope that you can just enjoy your day and brush off all the drama.
Post # 6
Thanks ladies. Just trying to keep my head up high.
Post # 7
just…. one… more …. weeeeek!! then no more wedding bs drama…..you can make it!!
Post # 8
I’m sorry. That’s just awful.
Again, FTR, we rented SUV’s (just because we don’t have nice cars at all) for transportation and they worked just fine. Just because you don’t get a limo (like everyone expects) doesn’t mean it’s not going to work out just fine.
I think I would be tempted to sit everyone down and tell them that you do not want drama on your wedding day. If they argue, if they continue causing drama, that’s it, they’re out. You don’t need to put up with that!
Post # 9
Wow, I’m sorry. Your future in-laws acted pretty weird about the whole transportation thing. If they are so darn worried, they are free to fund an alternative, and perhaps you should tell them that 😉 Some people do things that make us feel like we are the ones taking crazy pills, but it does sound like they are actually the ones being quite unreasonable. Try to relax, get to the point where you are so over their drama you just don’t care what they say anymore, and enoy this time with all of your heart–in spite of their attempts to add drama. You’ll be married to your Fiance in one week! 🙂
Post # 10
It will be over soon and you will be MARRIED. (It may help to repeat this as a mantra often.)
People sometimes suck, and I am sorry you are having all this stress.
Post # 11
Pfft, if anybody is going to intentionally try and cause you drama on you and yours’ day, and is ANYTHING but supportive, then peace out. Don’t want to ride in a “cramped car”, drive yourself Some people are soo selfish!