(Closed) I NEED THE BEE, Please Help a Crying Bee :-( (Long)

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

First off – big hugs!! You and your hubby have been struggling for awhile (based on previous anon post). The good news? All of this will make you guys and your relationship stronger/healthier in the long run – if you both commit to work through it and change things. Is he willing to work with you? Is he eager to have a happy and harmonious relationship? Are you?

It sounds to me like you guys need to get back to the basics. What made you both fall in love in the first place? 

Sit down together and discuss what you need in the relationship to be happy and discuss what is difficult as well. Talk about it – no walking away, no yelling. Just a conversation full of respect for each other. 

Next, make a plan for paying off your debt. Start with making a list of each loan/credit card, what the interest rate is on each one and what the minimum payment is. From there, keep making the minimum payment but put as much extra as you can on the highest interest debt. Once that is paid off, take what you were paying there and add it to what you are already paying on the next highest interest loan and so on. This works wonders!

Only 2 more points I have to make Smile

Step away from the pot. You’ve made up your mind to quit it (yay!! You can do it!!) so don’t ever even have just a drag – it’ll make you want it again. Even the smell of it will make you want it. Don’t go to places where it will be. Quitting this together will help build your bond. If the opportunity ever presents itself, move! Change your surroundings to help change the habit. 

Lastly – having a spouse that has bipolar is difficult. As I’m not posting this anon, I won’t go into personal family details, but trust me on this one, I know how hard it is on the spouse. Once he gets used to his meds and they find the correct dosage for him, it should help with his tempermant . http://www.webmd.com/bipolar-disorder/guide/bipolar-romantic-relationships-dating-and-marriage

 

You guys have a long journey ahead. While counselling is ridiculously over priced in Ontario, there are lots of great articles and books out there to help. Good luck sweetie!! We’re here if you need us Smile

Post # 64
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

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Post # 65
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

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Post # 66
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

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Post # 67
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

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@NJatTheDisco:  [content moderated for snark] Having a general understanding of the brain, mental disorders and addictions makes a person well rounded, not a pot head.

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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

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@kellyk1214:  This! Wrapped up and sold to me.

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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

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Post # 72
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

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@ConfusedAnonBee:  Clearly not. But I’m not about to argue over someone else’s drug problem with strangers. I said my 2 cents which you beckoned for. Sorry I didn’t hug you or hold your hand.

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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

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Post # 75
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Honey bee

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@NJatTheDisco:  You might want to review the Weddingbee Terms of Service, specifically the section about baiting.

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