(Closed) I Need the Wisdom of the Bee…

posted 8 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
1403 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Do you have any doors at the sides that can remain open for the latecomers?  Otherwise I’m not sure what advice to give you, short of putting a sign on the door that says “you snooze you lose.”

Post # 4
2867 posts
Sugar bee

Maybe have two ushers wait outside the ceremony area to force people to remain there until after the ceremony has started and casually walk them up when you aren’t looking when you’re up at the officiant…

Post # 5
202 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

you need to assign someone with this responsibility!   I’ve been that late person (shame on me!)  on several occasions – once, a wedding planner said you can’t go it (and then i saw the bride, and I understood why) and she directed us to a balcony area in the church to watch from up there.  Another time I had to wait until the full procession (bride & all) finished, and then I was allowed to sneak in the back.  NEVER did I mind (I was a few minutes late!!), but there was always somewhere there to tell me where to go or how long I had to wait.

Don’t worry about being rude to those late guests – just assign a wedding planner/ usher / alter boy / catering manager to instruct people to their seats tactfully.  you (and they) will hardly notice.  

Post # 6
562 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Maybe you can make a couple of signs that say something to the effect of “The Processional has begun, please wait until the bride makes her way down the aisle before finding a seat” and assign a couple people to post them somewhere at that time. 

Post # 7
1068 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

How rude! I actually gasped when I read what those guests did! I do not know if you can make a plan without having someone outside the door. After the ceremony starts and the bride is up at the alter, I think that the usher could come back in to witness the ceremony.

Post # 8
142 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011


I would suggests putting the ushers outside the doors and also keeping them there until the ceremony is over. These people have all year to be on time and running late through a wedding procession is tacky. If they are late then they will miss out. My cousin was very strict with her wedding and reception, if you weren’t on the rsvp list for the reception you couldn’t get inside. I say hold them accountable.

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