(Closed) I need to be honest and have no one else to tell

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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2490 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

Do what your gut tells you to do. Just please end things with your SO before considering anything new.

Honestly, I think if you were totally committed to your SO and didn’t want any temptation you would have blocked this guy from twitter and you wouldn’t be posting here.

Post # 4
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4523 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@sunflower7:  You need to end things with your SO first, plain and simple. Then if you want to persue this guy (that, youre right, probably does this to at least 3 women at every show), go for it….but if it turns out you were just a fling, you shouldnt go running back to your SO.

Post # 5
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11747 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

just dump your boyfriend and go hang out with other guys. Clearly, it’s what you want to do. If a hot guy gave me his number and wanted to hang out, I’d say no and not give it a second thought because I’m happy in my relationship!

Post # 6
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377 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I think you KNOW what you need to do and you know what you want. You are detached from your Boyfriend or Best Friend because he keeps you waiting and you dont know if it is ever going to progress but if you truly loved him and wanted to be with him the waiting wouldnt make you want to get to know another guy. What if the tables were turned you would be furious and heartbroken that your Boyfriend or Best Friend didnt have the guts to tell you how he felt before getting to know another girl. Dont be that girl that emotionally cheats on their SO it isnt pretty. 

Post # 7
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2755 posts
Sugar bee

It’s time to end your relationship. Whether you pursue anything with the guy from the band or not, I’ve been where you are before and this is a CLEAR sign your relationship is not working out. I know it’s hard, but you have to end it now before you do something you’ll end up regretting. I should’ve ended my former relationship when I first had thoughts about cheating, but I didn’t, and it blossomed into resentment because I felt like I was missing out.

Post # 8
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482 posts
Helper bee

@orchidaloha:  +1 when you’re happily committed a random guy wanting to get to *know* you wouldn’t pique your interest.

You’re young, and you’re in a relationship with someone who doesn’t seem to want the same things as you do. I can see how that would have your eye wandering elsewhere. But if you’re going to talk to him,  I would end things first.

Post # 9
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1684 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

It’s hard, but I think it’s time to end things with your SO.  You obviously want very different things and shouldn’t have to compromise.

Being tempted by a stranger is not a good sign.

Post # 12
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2490 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

@sunflower7:  I completely understand! It’s hard and you feel like you’re a horrible person to admit something like this.

When I was married I remember being attracted to someone I worked with at the time and I found myself fantasizing about being in a relationship with him. That was one of my first red flags that I needed to end my marriage, but it was super hard admitting that!

Post # 14
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2188 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2024

@MrsWBS +1

 

It sounds like you need to end your relationship and move on. You both want different things and you both deserve to be happy and I don’t think happiness for you lies with your current SO.

Post # 15
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9139 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@sunflower7:  Whoa, that is one determined guy!  You aren’t in a great relationship so break it off and give the band guy a chance.  Don’t do anything with band guy without first resolving your current relationship.

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