(Closed) I need to just vent..wooosaahhh

posted 8 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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10851 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Ugh that really sucks. My immediate thought is that if Fiance and you have both expressed your wishes, make sure the rest of your wedding party is on board and that your friends know. Your Future Brother-In-Law isn’t going to get very far with a bachelor party when he’s going to be the only person attending. Secondly, can you go over his head to your FMIL?! I know it sounds silly, but maybe if his mom tells him to get over himself he’ll get the message. LOL!

Post # 4
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Bumble bee

Well, your Fiance can always not show up to the other party! Has he talked to the other GMs and made his wishes clear? 

I can see why it would be a bummer for the GMs to not get the regular bachelor party. Do they know your female friends well, or is it more like two separate friend groups? If the guys mostly know each other but not the girls, maybe it makes sense to do two separate parties?

Post # 5
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1135 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

Wow.  Your Future Brother-In-Law has some boundary issues!  I think your Fiance needs to step up on this one, talk to his brother, make very clear that he will NOT be attending the bachelor party that he said he didn’t want, and then see how far FBIL’s planning gets.  I wish him luck throwing a bachelor party with no groom in attendance!  Honestly, this isn’t okay.  He’s flouting your wishes, and your FI’s wishes, and he’s being disrespectful of you and your relationship.  All bad.  Fiance needs to say something.  I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this!

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

IMO, the bachelor party is more for the guys than for the groom.  So I wouldn’t be surprised if they guys were a little bummed that they’re not getting to do the traditional night of debauchery ;o)

Can you do both parties?  The joint one and then have Fiance attend the one his brother is planning?

I’m not a believer that the b-party is a “last night of freedom” but it is a great excuse to get all your friends together and act ridiculous ;o)

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