- 5 years ago
Going annon. Long story. I am going to speed it up as much as possible.
I have a half sister. Different moms. Uninvolved dad. Didn’t meet until later teens. I am the younger of the two of us but we are just under 3 years apart in age. Cutting to the chase…
My SO and I have been together since summer 2013. Always been serious about each other. We are in our late 20s but we both partied pretty hard in our early 20s, before we dated, so since being together we like the finer things in life like travelling, food events, bowling, spending time with our nieces and nephews etc.
Last summer my sister decided she wanted to be more involved in my life. She gets along with my SO very well. It was going pretty well. Until she asked me to do an acting class with her. This not being my thing I declined. She is a very harsh person and decided my SO had to join her in this venture.
In short she disrupted my SO at work for 30 minutes about how my SO had to join her for her acting class. Eventually my SO said maybe to get her off the phone to go back to work. I later find out my sister apparently asked if I shaved for my SO (EW WTF) and other weird comments while trying to sell the acting class.
Later that night I spent another hour on the phone trying to explain to my sister that neither of us were interested in an acting class and my sister was livid and telling us we were boring and she told me that My SO was more fun than me and that they should be dating and I could have her boring BF who was more my speed. To get her off the phone I promised to go see her acting classes final show.
So fast forward a month. My SO and I are driving to my in-laws and I mentioned not having heard from my sister and that she obviously got over everything. To my SHOCK My SO said “about your sister…” and I was like “uh huh…?”
I was then told my sister had gotten drunk and called my SO because her boyfriend dumped her because she worked as an escort. My SO didn’t believe her thought she was in a drunken rage but later received the link to my sister’s ad, VERY sexually suggestive photos of herself, proving my her story.
My SO was asked not to tell me. It took my SO 2 weeks to tell me, having given my sister the opportunity to tell me which she did not. I am not mad that my SO didn’t tell me but I am LIVID that my sister felt my SO needed to see pictures like that of her on top of the weird comments she had been making. All evidence points to she calls herself an escort but what I found online, the reviews men have done on her, other than being disgusting, degrading and traumatizing for a sister….my sister is a prostitute.
Needless to say my SO is traumatized. It has been 6 months and I haven’t spoken to my sister and I asked my SO not to as well, at least until I have made a decision on how I feel about her.
My SO tries to remind me that my sister is probably jealous of my normal lifestyle, that we are close to an engagement, marriage and babies etc.
I just feel like My sister is throwing herself at my other half. She was so insistent they spent time alone. Furthermore she thinks I’m boring anyway, she has zero interest in confiding in me or establishing a close relationship. I am all of my friends confidant, had she came to me and told me her REAL occupation….instead of making comments about my vajayjay to my SO and insisting they spend time alone and telling me they should be dating instead….I wouldn’t be this mad….I wouldn’t think so poorly of her! But I do and I feel horrible about it but I really do.
Lastly, I tried so hard to over come the hardships I have experienced. I worked so hard to be a strong woman. So that my future daughters and grand daughters know that being a woman, having strength, respecting yourself and your sisterhood and putting yourself first aren’t things to be ashamed of.
I find her occupation the complete opposite of everything I have fought so hard NOT to be. Just so I am 100% clear….she works alone, there is no pimp, she is a one woman operation.
Am I right to cut her out? If I do bring her back in my life….should there be rules? Boundaries? I have lost a lot of trust in her after finding out the things he said to my SO.