(Closed) I need to rant….

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
Member
429 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

No, it’s not too much, and yes, if your FMIL wants these strangers at your wedding, she should pay. 

And no need to apologize… we all do it and we all know how aggravating planning can be. Stand up for yourself, or have your FI talk to his mom for you.

Good luck hun!

Post # 5
Member
429 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Nini85:  Sounds like you got a good one. 🙂 It probably doesn’t help to know this, but you’re not the only one with this problem. I’ve seen lots of other people whose future in-laws wanted to invite half the town to the wedding. There’s one thread on here where a family member invited 180 extra people without telling the bride! It’s nuts, but it happens. I’m super glad your FI will stand by you in not putting up with your FMIL shenanigans. 

Post # 6
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85 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

If you can get her to pay, she needs to. If you can’t, find a way to uninvite them. It may be a bit rude, but if you explainnicely and you’ve never met them before (and they’ve never met you) then who cares?

Post # 7
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979 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

She should definitely pay for the extra people she’s inviting.  I think its completely reasonable to invite some of her friends/family and your parents pay for them if they have offered to pay for the entire wedding, but when you say no and she still invites unwanted guests, its time for her to foot the bill.

Post # 9
Member
511 posts
Busy bee

Hell yes you can say you’re at the maximum! Final numbers are final numbers and that’s beyond your control.  She’s going to have a lot of egg on her face because if you don’t even know who she has invited, she’s going to have to un-invite them.

Good luck!

 

Post # 10
Member
814 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

Either she pays or they’re uninvited. Get your FI to deal with it, it’s his family. What a rude woman!

Post # 11
Member
739 posts
Busy bee

Tell her that the payment by your parents has already been made for the approved guest list and anyone not on the list will be turned away. IF she really needs to invite these people she needs to pay $xxx for each person plus whatever the venue charges to change the final count.

Post # 12
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19 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2012

omfg… I can’t even imagine the anger you must be feeling. I’d be super pissed. Has she been giving you a running total of the people she’s inviting? And what about your seating plan? Does she not care how difficult she’ll make that? gee whiz.

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