Post # 1
My aunt passed last week. I really didn’t know her as that side of the family has always lived across the country. I have gotten to know my cousin in the past years thanks to FB. She was cremated and they are having a memorial service for her next week and I’d like to send flowers.
When my dad passed I picked flowers (similar service) that were technically labeled for funerals. I tried to pick arrangements that didn’t have that familiar funeral look to them, but when they were delivered, that’s what I got! I think these arrangements are depressing, especially when the family takes them home, it’s a reminder of their loss.
Would it be proper to order a more cheerful arrangement? I’d stay away from the ones you’d send for a birthday, with several extra bright colors.
OOPS – forgot to add the flowers are going to the funeral home!!
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Post # 2
I think that your sentiments are lovely. Please send whatever you think would best represent your thoughts and hopes for the family. No doubt they will appreciate the gestur.
Post # 3
I’m sorry for your loss, it’s tough when you can’t be there, but it’s very nice that you want to send something.
I always send a wreath that’s artifical so someone in the family can keep it- you could have it done in fall colors since fall is right around the corner.
Post # 4
I think a cheerful colorful bouquet would be inappropriate and is no less likely to “remind” someone of their loss than a more subdued arrangement. It sounds like your heart is in the right place, but if I saw a cheerful bouquet at a funeral home, I would assume the sender was either clueless or careless.
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Post # 6
For my grandmother’s funeral last year we received dozens of arrangements in all sizes, colors, etc. No one gave any thought to the color; we just appreciated the gesture.
When someone is grieving, you can’t “remind” them of it. It’s always there. Might as well remind them of the beauty in the world. Just send something pretty and don’t overthink it. What you picked above is lovely.
Post # 7
The flowers you linked are lovely. In the past when I received flowers upon the death of a family member, I really liked the cheerful ones – like big sunflowers. Some people may appreciate it while others won’t. While you aren’t close to these people, you know them better than us so just use your best judgement.
Post # 8
Thanks Bees!! I think I’ll go w/ the purple ones!